Newsflash! Black Women Don’t Want to Fight a War By Proxy! They Just Want the Basics.

You Tube is such a crazy, and sometimes ugly place. I often feel like I need a shower after I interact with some of the crazy, disenfranchised, powerless men that want to use black women as gambits in a cold war against white supremacy. We are not born to hold your swords. We are not born to be the other fist in your bump. We are not born to be your ride-or-die chick. We will do it when it warrants it, but that’s not the sole reason we are here.

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So let me repeat. Black women want the basics. Those same basics that any other woman of every other race in America wants.

We want to be loved.


Black women want to be cherished.


Protected and provided for as she grows the family with a committed and present partner.


The whole notion that relationships for women is some sort of political war that has been waged. No amount of guilt, shaming, and threats are going to make the innate desire that *most* black women (read, all women) desire.

Of course, there are women out there willing to sacrifice their wombs and go to war the community, and even they are often in denial about what they really desire.

For example, look at this quote that I lifted from a well-known fire-breathing black woman basher:

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*Drops mic*




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