relationships

19 Feb 14

Leona’s Love Quest: The Final Chapter

It’s hard to believe that two years ago right before Valentine’s Day I sat down at my desk and crafted my introduction to “Leona’s Love Qu...

dating, relationships, swirlr, mixed marriage, culture, stereotypes, etiquette, black men, cheapskates, don't date him girl,

16 Feb 14

Lessons From The Hubster: What You Get With a Guy ...

So The Hubster and I have many a conversation about the the blog’s goings on, and I mentioned how a new member of ours, ostensibly a software en...

Sophie Okonedo, mixed marriage, culture, relationships, blended families, swirling, Africa, international, documentary, society, sandra laing, apartheid, economics, class, black women, laws, rules, racism,

13 Feb 14

The Sad Story of Sandra Laing: A tale of White Pri...

Have you heard of Sandra Laing? Her story, though originating in apartheid South Africa, will likely resonate with us here. From the Guardian: The b...

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12 Feb 14

Searching for a Matchmaker: Back to a Familiar Pla...

If you had access to ten men who had been vetted for good character and were already attracted to you, would you meet them? What if all of them were b...

Twitter, love, relationships, advice, questions, public forum, matchmaker, swirling, biracial, interracial, marriage, love, social media, expert,

12 Feb 14

Relationship Tweet Chat Today, 4PM PST/7PM EST

I get so many relationship questions that I often can’t get to them all. But today, I’m going to be part of a tweet chat with my fellow co...

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10 Feb 14

Listen white guys, you REALLY need to get over you...

I recently ran across a post from a “Pick Up Artist” site by an expert giving advice to non-black men on how to date black women. It was...

eric asla, tyra banks, america's next top model, dating, boyfriend, romance, kisses, interracial, marriage,

10 Feb 14

It’s Official: Tyra Banks Has a New Boo

Tyra Banks, model and creator of the reality TV show for aspiring models America’s Next Top Model, was photographed getting her smooch on in a r...

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07 Feb 14

National Black HIV Awareness Day: Have You Been Te...

February 7th is National HIV Awareness Day. HIV/AIDS has claimed approximately 250,745 lives over the last five years. Though much less than the 80&#...

marriage, swirling, couples, relationships, religion, inspiration,church, Monica L, God, christianity,

06 Feb 14

Monica: “I Thank God For My Husband”

Monica L. In light of a recent post, I wanted to share a refreshing story of Monica L. This beautiful, scholarly sister would not let negative messa...

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24 Jan 14

One Man Found Guilty of Not Disclosing HIV Status,...

Consider this post a friendly public service announcement about the importance of safe sex. It’s not just high schoolers who need this message. ...

dating, swirling, equals, standards, Black women, Black men, poor choices, leaving, relationshps, romance, abuse, options,

23 Jan 14

Toni: Desirable educated black women who don’...

I find it absolutely hilarious that we get black woman after black woman writing all these open letters and blog posts about how they only want a blac...