Black Women's Improvement Project (BWIP)

The Aftermath of Dr. Ralph: Piddly Comebacks and Unwarranted Outrage!

I’ve been avoiding this discussion for the last week mainly because was on deadline for the book and Simon & Schuster was threatening to take The Babster for leverage if I didn’t come through. But I’ve watched and read the fallout of Dr. Ralph Richard Banks’ WSJ article, heard about the racid comments ( swarming with trolls of a certain sex and hue I’ll bet), THEN heard the sides of Pro Banks vs. Hate Banks. Finally, someone sent me an article about how 88% of black men marry black women, so all this propaganda about black men marrying out is just a cock-in-bull story planted by The Man to make black people look crazy and eat each other.

So I’ll take this on bite by bite.

First thing, I think Dr. Banks was right about how black women dating interracially could encourage black men to clean up their act. He’s basically saying that if black women disengaged their teets from black men who suck them dry because they are capitalizing from the disparity between the lopsided numbers, then they might be motivated to rise to occasions outside of the bedroom.

This is true. So why are you mad?

Now before you clutch your pearls, hear me out.

Think of black male and black female relationships in terms of capitalistic principles:

Remember the law of supply and demand? I’ll save you the Googling:

Supply and demand is an economic model of price determination in a market. It concludes that in acompetitive market, the unit price for a particular good will vary until it settles at a point where the quantity demanded by consumers (at current price) will equal the quantity supplied by producers (at current price), resulting in an economic equilibrium of price and quantity.

–the omnicient Wikipedia

If the supply of quality men is low, they’re priced and valued within the black community at a premium. Because comparitively, the supply of quality black women is high, the price and value of them is low.

Remember what your teacher said about a monopoloy? Still works for this analagy:

Monopoly: The exclusive possession or control of the supply or trade in a commodity or service.

Just replace the “trade ” or “service” for black women, and you can clearly see the problem. And while the part of my brain that can juggle numbers is atrophied, I can STILL figure this one out. The high demand of black men–from the IBM to the Pookey ‘n ’em–results in the business of relationships being dominated by black men who enjoy giving crap service to it’s customers. And because the customers need some portion (or a piece) of that crap portion we pay a VERY high price for it.

If you’re a kabillionaire stranded in the desert and spent the day with nothing to drink, how much would you pay for a bottle of sink water?

Dr. Banks said that evening the playing field would create competition, and as goes the saying by those Wall Street worms, competition breaks the monopoly. The company that has monopolized is either forced to improve it’s service or go POOF!

It’s true. HOWEVER COMMA, the premise that black women should date out in order to manipulate black men into being better is just as bad as a white guy saying he’s gonna get a mail-order bride because American women don’t (generally) spit shine their shoes and let their husbands pee on them. This sinking dog poo statement, “Ya’ll black men don’t ack right so I’ma git me a white man!” is just dumb. If you love black men so much that you’re willing to use another human being to manipulate someone into doing what you want, then you deserve to be by yourself. No one wants to be a Plan B.

But you bet your bottom dollar that the uproar from the black blog-o-sphere is because some fat cats are afraid of losing exclusive rights to their tuna train.


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