Video: Chris and Wes On How to Inspire Attraction with the Opposite Sex

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Some people think attraction with the opposite sex is either “there” or it isn’t. Not necessarily. Sometimes emotions like shyness and nervousness overwhelm us to the point that, even if we are attracted, we don’t show it.

Wes Murphy and I did a demonstration on how to build attraction, and the chemistry we build is a good lesson on how to make it work for you.


Five Things to Spark Attraction:

  • Eye contact (it’s okay to be intense, but try not to be creepy)
  • Genuine interest in the person you’re interacting with. People like to talk about themselves. Be a good listener!
  • Light touch, on the arm or the shoulder, just briefly, along with a smile and eye contact
  • Playful teasing
  • Proximity and the entering of another’s personal space, only if it’s welcomed

What ways have you used to spark attraction and chemistry? Dish!

This is probably a good time to mention that my buddy, Matthew Hussey, has an entire series on the subject and countless other suggestions on how to build attraction. Check it out here.

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