QOTW: Black Father Blames Himself for Daughter’s Interracial Dating Choice

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Here's the question: Dear Christelyn , A very heart breaking issue has arisen in my family because of my dating preferences. A brief history: I … [Read more...]

QOTW: 16 Year Old Girl Wants to Know Why White Guys Don’t Approach

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The question... Hi Christelyn! My name is Brianna and I'm 16 years old and I'm also natural!. I am currently enrolled in a predominately white school … [Read more...]

Interracial Couples and a Word on Safety: Memphis Couple Needs Our Advice.


Got this note this morning: Hi, my name is Gary, and I would like to say first that I find your advice to be very helpful. I am 22 and my fiance … [Read more...]

QOTW: Interracial Relationships and the “N-Word”


Got this note about a month ago. Yes; that's how far backed up I am. Good Evening Christelyn! Two things I love to do is laugh and listen to … [Read more...]

A Heartfelt Letter from a White Guy, Wondering How He Can Approach Black Women. Have At It, Ladies.

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I don't know if you guys realize how much of an impact this site has, and how many notes I get like this on a weekly basis. Men you thought would … [Read more...]

Lesson: Black Chicks Need to Know When Non-Black Men are Hitting on Them!

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I continue to be amazed about how many young girls really are clueless about dating. This isn't anything to be ashamed about--this is easily fixed. … [Read more...]

QOTW: “I Have Five Kids. Is It Too Late for Me to Swirl?”


I get this question quite a bit, and I have to be very delicate how I answer. But it's time to address it. Hi Christelyn,  I'm a single black woman … [Read more...]

QOTW: “Am I Wrong If I Choose to Never Date a Black Man Again?”

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I just got this note from a fan of the blog and fan page: I have a question for you Christelyn as well as the other group members who are doing the … [Read more...]

QOTW: Black Woman Wonders About Interracial Dating After 40

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The Letter... Hi Christelyn, I came across the BB&W website chance through a FB friends repost of a picture from the Interracial Dating … [Read more...]

QOTW: “Is My Long-Distance Relationship a Big, Fat, Fake?”

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I received this note from a reader a few weeks ago: "I am a single parent of twin seven year old boys and I live in Trinidad. I have known my … [Read more...]