We’ve all heard the stories before. Someone receives an e-mail from their future spouse on the very last day before their online dating subscription is set to expire. Another finally tries online dating after years of reluctance and meets their soul mate within the first week. A friend who was late for an appointment, missed their train, or was dragged kicking and screaming to a party meets the love of their life through a chance encounter. It’s true that Cupid often decides to strike his arrow at some of the most fortuitous moments. It makes me wonder, when it comes to finding that special someone, what’s luck got to do with it?
“I know. I know. I could hear the cyber moaning and groaning as I typed the title of this post…”
Anybody who’s been around this blog for the past two years knows the wise and statistically-gifted ‘Bunny77,’ who has in the past, shared her experience meeting her husband through a little Jewish matchmaker, got married a little over a year ago, and BOOM! guess what? She’s PREGGERS!!
The folks at SheKnows.com asked me to lend them some wisdom on the oft studied, oft misunderstood, oft discussed, oft debated tangle of that, that, and the other regarding interracial relationships.
Here’s a bit:
After May 15, I’ll be expecting to be on your Christmas, Kwanza and Hannukah cards because the mother of all book signings is happening in Los Angeles, and boy oh boy, we’ve got some goodies for only the first 25 people who arrive at Eso Wan book store–you know that one, where BARACK OBAMA and BILL CLINTON came down from Heaven to sign their books. And because I know people, I’ve got some folks really, REALLY excited about getting all of your First Date Ready (FDR). We want you to be FDR inside AND out, so get a relationships book like “Swirling” to get your mind right, and I’ll take care of the rest.
This one is serious, so no silly sound effects. This is a real note, for a real person, so I want to be sensitive to how she might be feeling. It’s one thing to face rejection because of skin color, but it’s a whole other thing for folks to hide behind “religion to justify bigotry. In this video, I give the writer some tips on how to deal with it, identify red flags and how to talk to her mate about the situation. We go into a lot of details about these situations in “Swirling,” but I’ll share just a little bit here:
Last week I almost let the April 15th deadline pass me by. Not for filing my taxes, I did that early and got a decent return, but it had been 60 days since the beginning of my Love Quest and it was seriously time to assess my progress!
No; none of us in the BB&W Crew buy this horse excreta, but many, many MANY others do. Gotta give the guy credit for acknowledging his hypocrisy though.
Don’t be jealous, I don’t mean to brag, but unattractive, ill-bred losers think I’m super-hot. They flood my Match.com mailbox with winks and messages. Sometimes they stop me on the street and ask if they can “holler at me” for a minute. It’s not easy being so highly coveted by the undateable, but I guess I just got it like that.
While browsing through a Google search for an unrelated writing project, I stumbled upon a link that reminded me of a whimsical little notion I used to entertain when I was a single girl: getting a sugar daddy. Especially a few years ago, as a recent graduate with zero prospects on either the job or relationship front, my friends and I would joke that we should just get sugar daddies and not worry about silly things like following our passions or becoming successful. During that time I also had an incident where an older gentleman helped me find my way when I was lost just off Times Square. He then proceeded to shower me with complements and offered to buy me coffee. Once the job interview I was going to turned out to be just another rejection, I seriously for a moment considered if I had what it took to be a woman with a benefactor. And wondered if I should have met the man for coffee, even just of out curiosity.
“He glanced back over his should and looked at me. “Yeah, I didn’t take you for the type to attend an event like that and I’ve only known you for about a minute…”