Is This Blog Making Black Women Look Desperate?

This is a blog that frequently discusses love and relationships. The"Swirling" book that is on the side of the page advertises a desire to seek love … [Read more...]


Well Damn! Black Woman Writes Book Advising Sisters to Marry Jewish Men.

I'm seeing a lot of dating and advice books from black women who are interracially married, and I must say I'm glad to see it. Folks can get on their … [Read more...]

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Kiss Worry Goodbye: The MUA Box Keeps Your Privacy Completely Private

Pssst...Hey you! Yeah, you with the unmentionable objects kept in the draw with your other unmentionables. Have you ever wondered how you can conceal … [Read more...]


Why Are Sisters at the Ivy Leagues Still Caught Up in the Matrix?

It's the ultimate irony when a black woman feels empowered to reach the highest echelons of academia yet feels so powerless when it comes to dating … [Read more...]

Dating Guru Matthew Hussey 17/11/09

Stuff I Bet You Don’t Know that You SHOULD Know Before You Have Your First Date

Matthew Hussey is about the most brilliant (and gorgeous) relationships coach I've ever met, and I'm not just saying that because he's my friend. He's … [Read more...]


One Social Scientist’s Advice for Black Women Dating Online: Make the First Move.

Author's Note: What you are about to read may bruise your ego. Hard truths are being told here, and while you might wail that the injustice of what is … [Read more...]


Question of the Week: “Help! I’m Suffering from Dating a Rainbeau Impostor Complex!”

I got this letter today from a reader. The emphasis is mine. I seem to be dealing with the "Dating a Rainbeau Impostor Complex".   I can't help … [Read more...]


New Study Confirms the Online is the Best Way to Date Interracially.

One of the chief fears I hear from people curious about interracial dating is that is rejection. Non-black men, who've probably heard from one loud … [Read more...]

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Black Women Need Men Like Cory Alexander Haywood Like a Fish Needs a Bicycle.

#InterracialRelationshipsAre4BlackMen. At least that's what Cory Alexander Haywood would like for us to believe, because hell, only black men, in … [Read more...]

What Your Typical Black Woman Means When She Says, “Get Me A White Man!”

Having run an interracial dating website for the past three years, I can't add up how many times I've heard that phrase. "GET ME A WHITE MAN," as if … [Read more...]


One Letter Writer’s Experience Being the Only Black Girl and NOT Being ‘Invisible.’

There's very few letters I get that move me to immediate action, but this one did. Once you read it you'll understand why. I bolded the moral of this … [Read more...]

Young Ethnic Woman is Very Surpised

QOTW: I’m black, but now I have “white people problems”…

I’m black, but now I have “white people problems”… My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over 2 years. He (47) and I (44) are divorced. He … [Read more...]


Do White Men Who Swirl Prefer Darker Skinned Naturalistas?

A little something me and my writing partner noticed while doing promotion for SWIRLING was that most (bordering on all) of the white guys we saw with … [Read more...]