True Story: ‘EarthJeff’ Gets Newfound Empathy for Racial Profiling

True Story: ‘EarthJeff’ Gets Newfound Empathy for Racial Profiling

“I get it. People were just being overly sensitive. And yet…. until I was the one handing over my ID for pretty much no reason at all other than either the color of my skin or that of my colleague….. I guess I did NOT understand. I do now. Parked while white with black woman in car.”

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You know our friend, ‘EarthJeff.’ He’s been an awesome addition to the BB&W Crew, and he just shared this story with me last night. I figured a lot of you all can relate.

'EarthJeff'

Racial Profiling?  Please……  Hey, I understand.

‘EarthJeff’

I am a white man.  I have never been pulled over and had my plates or ID run because of the color of my skin.  I have never been stared at or given a double-take in a store because of the color of my skin.  I have never had anyone call 911 or had the Neighborhood Watch guy chase me down because I am suspicious walking around in a hoodie.  I have talked to all my students (I teach in an urban high school) about these things and they have had some of these experiences.  OK, I am an educated man so I understand, really, I do.  Sucks to be you but I know what you must be feeling…. dont get upset… just go with it.  It is NOT that big of a deal.  You are just being overly sensitive.  I THOUGHT I understood.

Until….. recently…..
We had a professional development event at a venue with really tight parking so we met at a local mall parking lot to leave a couple of cars and share rides.  Typical suburban mall parking lot.  We got back and a colleague and I wanted to finish a discussion so we sat in the car for a short bit to talk.  Dressed professionally, minding our own business, a white male and a black female… both educators.

Suddenly a local police car pulls in front of me and an officer gets out and comes over to my window (Interestingly, a short white female cop) and she none-too-politely  “requests” our ID.  My colleague nonchalantly hands hers over as I am getting mine and say something stereotypical like “what is the problem, officer”?  I get a snarly “we have had some trouble around here lately. Do either of you have any warrants?” she asks.

I assume she means trouble much worse than DWB (Driving while black).  I am sure that she means something really heinous like PWWWBWIC (Parked while white with black woman in car).  And, wow, I am GUILTY of that.  So we get our ID back and the cop walks away.  I am pissed and my colleague is calm like she has been through all of it before.  She says “Welcome to my world”.  The whole experience was one of the most profound I have ever had.  Oh, yes, I THOUGHT I understood.  Educated man.

I get it.  People were just being overly sensitive.  And yet…. until I was the one handing over my ID for pretty much no reason at all other than either the color of my skin or that of my colleague….. I guess I did NOT understand.  I do now.  Parked while white with black woman in car.  If I am alone in that car or sitting with a white colleague, does that cop come ask for our ID?

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EarthJeff 3570 pts

 Matrix12 I dont get out much..... lol

Christelyn 9250 pts moderator

pssst! Did ya'll get a gander at the picture of EarthJeff I added to the OP?

Brenda55 20939 pts moderator

 Christelyn  Nice to put a face with the name.  

ASwirlGirl 3220 pts

@Christelyn Wondering why Jeff hasn't been a "Hottie of the Week?" I'm just asking . . . ;-)

EarthJeff 3570 pts

 The Working Home Keeper  ASwirlGirl  Christelyn "Mahalo" for the ego boost!  (Did I really just quote Drew Barrymore?  Quick... what cutesy Romantic movie is it from ... one of my favorites...).  But..... PuhLeeze.  Just a crusty old Science teacher and lacrosse coach weathering away here in the Rust Belt.   But I DO appreciate the boost.

Maxine 1006 pts

 EarthJeff  The Working Home Keeper  ASwirlGirl  Christelyn Is it from 50 First Dates?

ASwirlGirl 3220 pts

 EarthJeff  The Working Home Keeper  Christelyn *In my teacher voice* Jeff, are you shy???

EarthJeff 3570 pts

 ASwirlGirl  The Working Home Keeper  Christelyn Believe it or not, I WAS painfully shy back in the days when people spoke to me in her teacher's voice.  I have gotten much more open and outgoing as I have matured.  BEING a teacher also has taught me to be much more comfortable talking to many people on many different levels.

EarthJeff 3570 pts

 Maxine  The Working Home Keeper  ASwirlGirl  Christelyn Oh, yes, it IS from 50 First Dates.  At the risk of the whole Crew here learning I am sensitive and like cutesy romantic movies... it is one of my favorites.  We have all had at least one of those moments that are throughout the movie.

ASwirlGirl 3220 pts

 EarthJeff  The Working Home Keeper  Christelyn Aww, I thought so. Glad you've been able to press beyond that - and interact with all of us! ;-)

 

*Wondering if Jeff will now go ahead and be a Hottie of the Week?* lol

ASwirlGirl 3220 pts

 EarthJeff  Maxine  The Working Home Keeper  Christelyn Liking - and being willing to go to - Chick Flicks is a good thing!

MySmile 4259 pts

 EarthJeff  Yeah, you are probably more than twice my age (no offense..the gray hair gave it away lol) but you should have been hottie of the week! What do they call a male cougar? A silver fox? lol I like the glasses too!

The Working Home Keeper 6963 pts

 MySmile  EarthJeff ASwirlGirl Love the goatee, gray and all! 

ASwirlGirl 3220 pts

 The Working Home Keeper  MySmile  EarthJeff Me too! Beards and goatees are hot.

dasdbobb 1408 pts

@ASwirlGirl @The Working Home Keeper @MySmile @EarthJeff I have a goatee.

MySmile 4259 pts

 ASwirlGirl  I thought I was the only one!!. .I love facial hair as long as it doesn't look like small animals are living inside...no Santa clause beards either! lol.

MySmile 4259 pts

 dasdbobb lol this is random but is that your cat in your profile picture? It looks fluffy and cute.

dasdbobb 1408 pts

@MySmile Yes it is. He ia a purebred tibetian. He is also 18 years old, and had recently gone blind, poor baby.I like him because he is jet black fluffy, soft, does not shed or get hair mats with green eyes and weighs 19 pounds. Most have the yellow, but not him. I'll post a larger pic of him on my FB page when I get a new camera'

ASwirlGirl 3220 pts

 MySmile Girl, I am FALLING. DOWN. LAUGHING. OUT. LOUD @ "as long as it doesn't look like small animals are living inside."

 

I can't BREAVE! 

dasdbobb 1408 pts

@ASwirlGirl @MySmile sit down, relax count to ten b-r-e-a-t-h-e!

ASwirlGirl 3220 pts

 dasdbobb  ASwirlGirl  MySmile I just laugh too hard for my own good. I don't know how I do it, but when I laugh hard like that I start gasping because it feels like my air supply is cutting off. When I say I'm "FALLING. DOWN. LAUGHING. OUT. LOUD" it's pretty literal!

EarthJeff 3570 pts

 MySmile "Yeah, you are probably more than twice my age"  

And then some, I am sure.....  Maybe not by too much..... too old to play games and willing to hang it all out there... I am 48.  Appreciate the try, but Silver Fox?  Wasnt that the Senior citizen political party in Eddie Murphy's movie Distinguished Gentleman when he was a con artist who ran for - and won - political office?

And kudos to your boyfriend for becoming a teacher...  We never do have enough good ones and for all the trials and tribulations... it is VERY rewarding to know that you get to make a difference in peoples lives.  Really. 

EarthJeff 3570 pts

 MySmile  ASwirlGirl Hey, go easy on the Santa beard.  I already told the story of working as a mall Santa so I had one of those (thankfully fake so I could take the darn thing off when it was my turn to go feed the reindeer)

ASwirlGirl 3220 pts

 EarthJeff  MySmile Oh, that's right - I forgot about that story! Well, your trimmed goatee looks nice - you definitely have that scruffy-but-neat-intellectual-professor/teacher-nice-guy vibe going. And you wear it well. ;-)

EarthJeff 3570 pts

 ASwirlGirl  MySmile Thank you so much.  Geez, am I really blushing?  You keep it up and I will need to buy a bigger hat.

ASwirlGirl 3220 pts

 EarthJeff  MySmile I'm trying to figure out why you say you're "weather beaten" or "weathered?" Those terms bring to mind a visual of the "Old Man and the Sea," or some relic of a guy with a stringy ponytail living on a deserted island. You definitely don't look like that! 

Karla 19126 pts

 ASwirlGirl  LMAO at "Old Man and the Sea" and stringy ponytail.

The Working Home Keeper 6963 pts

 ASwirlGirl  EarthJeff  MySmile He was just being modest :)

MySmile 4259 pts

 dasdbobb  awww :-( :-( 18 is pretty old, right? he's toughing it out!

MySmile 4259 pts

 EarthJeff  lol sorry, I forgot about that!!! :-) My apologies to all the mall Santas out there.

MySmile 4259 pts

 EarthJeff  Yeah, you are 26 years older than me! You are not as old as my dad so it's not that creepy. Haha I never saw that movie... According to urban dictionary, the most reliable source I have in this case, "a silver fox is an attractive older man. Generally, one that has gray hair and is often desired by younger women. Example: That Sean Connery may be old, but he sure is one silver fox!!" Journalist Anderson Cooper has been called a silver fox too.

 

Thanks! He looks forward to being an English teacher in a few years. Better him, than me. Being a teacher is the ultimate sacrifice. You have kids testing your patience every day and they don't even pay that much! He loves helping people and isn't consumed with money so I'm sure he'll be fine.

MySmile 4259 pts

 ASwirlGirl Lmao. Some beards really do look like a bird's nest!!!

dasdbobb 1408 pts

@MySmile Ya, but there are some of this breed who have lives as long as 25 years. I doubt he'll make it quite that far, but he still has a few good years in him.

introvertedwanderer 1056 pts

 Christelyn   He kind of looks like one of my former English professors.

Tammy_Ghalden 875 pts

"White names got about one callback per 10 resumes; black names got one per 15. Carries and Kristens had call-back rates of more than 13 percent, but Aisha, Keisha and Tamika got 2.2 percent, 3.8 percent and 5.4 percent, respectively. And having a higher quality resume, featuring more skills and experience, made a white-sounding name 30 percent more likely to elicit a callback, but only 9 percent more likely for black-sounding names."

 

http://www.cbsnews.com/2100-201_162-575685.html

The Working Home Keeper 6963 pts

 Tammy_Ghalden I've had instances where based on just my name (Mary Ellen) and my voice, people have assumed I was white.  My first college roommate definitely did.  I still remember her face when we met for the first time LOL!  Some of the clients I work with also think I'm Greek based on my husband's last name - before they actually meet me in person of course.  

dasdbobb 1408 pts

@The Working Home Keeper @Tammy_Ghalden That is my sisters name although spelled a little differently. She is a retired LAPD officer, and when sht does talk about the job, she always said she had more trouble with Latinos, and Asian men than AA. She thinks something about or aling the lines of 'you should be at home having babies, bot out here with a gun!'. Cultural differendes i guess, she has been shot twice, both times by white, teenage or early 20 something males. I guess they thought she wouldn't shoot back, they were wrong! Anywho, thats her story. Even in LA, her problem was with white, Latino and Asians. Dhe never had any real issues with AA's, even though she spent a lot ot time at the Rampart and South-Central divisions. Anyone who lives in LA knows where those divisions are.Maybe because she is short, they felt sorry for her, I'll have to ask her. LOL

dasdbobb 1408 pts

Sorry for all the typos, Feeling Kinda sick this morning. going back to bed i thinl

zipporah 1911 pts

 The Working Home Keeper  Tammy_Ghalden Thats usually how it is. A black woman could be married to a white man that doesnt have an irish english or french name and people wont know shes black until they MEET her. My husband isnt black BUT he has a name many black men have

The Working Home Keeper 6963 pts

My husband's surname is Polish - Lithuanian technically, but his father's family considers themselves Polish. It doesn't have the "ski" ending, so that throws people off.

MySmile 4259 pts

 Tammy_Ghalden I figured this..My name is Shelbi. I truly believe they think I'm white when they see my name....sometimes on the phone too. I can sound professional but I still think you can tell I'm black...maybe not because I did fool a few people...Also, some people don't mind if you are black (or else I wouldn't want to work there anyway) but they don't want you to be a certain type of black person I guess. For example, a traditional African name may get more callbacks than a made up name (Latonka, Shaquifa, etc)...but I'm not sure...This is not only for salaried jobs or jobs requiring a resume. I've experienced this with retail too!

zipporah 1911 pts

 MySmile  Tammy_Ghalden Most of the 'made up' names didnt happen until the late 60s...'sha for girls or D' for boys. Maybe 'double capitals' were a little common but we used some british names like Tyrone, Malcolm, Clarence, or the ol' skool typical Leroy--havent heard of Latonka or Shaquifa, but not surprized

MySmile 4259 pts

 zipporah  lol yeah, I've met people of my parent's generation named Tyrone and Leroy lol! I don't know anybody named Shaquifa but there were people I went to school with (when I went to black schools) named Jatonka, Mynieka, Marquavious, Dontarius, Kaneisha, Quianna, Court'ne (pronounced Court-a-nay), Jemice, Davondra, Mariqua, Tawatha, Laytoya, Markita, Jhoniqua and the classic Shaniqua. The list goes on and on!! The worst is when when they give children names that people can't even pronounce..or make one letter "silent" smh!!!

introvertedwanderer 1056 pts

 MySmile  zipporah  Wow, those names are so awful,  I cringed reading through the list. I think the only ones who can get away with naming their kids what are thought of as outrageous names are celebrities who do that, because they have that kind of privilege.  But your everyday parent should not be naming their kids any of the names on this list. By the way, I think that Shelbi is a beautiful name. I looked up the meaning, and I like it.

dasdbobb 1408 pts

@MySmile @zipporah I have to tell this. My wifes baby son has a friend whom because he so dearly loves cadillacs, named his twin boys..........wait for it.............COUPE AND DEVILLE. LMAO I know these boys, and they have caught hell growing up.

grrlysquirrel75 1121 pts

 dasdbobb  Say it ain't so, Bobb!

dasdbobb 1408 pts

@grrlysquirrel75 True story. The bous are in the service now, they enlisted at 18. 1 is training to be an Air Force fighter pilot, the othet is Senior chief, ECM on a nuke boomer sub. They're doing ok by my standards. The father, still in and out of prison.

grrlysquirrel75 1121 pts

 dasdbobb I'm glad they've risen above their father's idiocy to do well for themselves.