Black Women's Improvement Project (BWIP)

Weak Men Want to Lead? Stop Blaming Women for Your Lameness!

I just LOVE it when a post inspires another post, like how this one I’m about to do in response to LaShuan Williams’ 300+ comment thread that brought the trolls out of their hiding to tell us just how misguided we all are. And speaking of trolls, your humble hostess oft takes a hit for allowing them, so I guess it’s a good time to explain (again) why I do it. I am a reporter, writer and publicist. My experience in publicity and interpersonal communications (my major at LMU) has taught me that some things are just so outrageous, so blatantly bald in their hypocrisy and so soul-killing that it simply must be seen to believed. We can talk until we’re blue about DBR’s and NPD’s and members of the GAT-DL, but sometimes a lady just has to see for herself how the gaslighting works. As a result, the nonsense that sprouts can work to the BWE gal’s advantage. Understand ladies, this is a chess game. No; I have never played chess, but I think the central aspect is to be able to anticipate your opponent’s move before he even knows what his next move will be.

I think that post was a microcosm of the MEGA problem going on in the black community, specifically, the black man’s need for control, yen for the leadership role and the enormous ego blow some men feel about black women–especially those whom they deem “prime cuts”–rejecting blind allegiance and moving on to find their own way to happiness and well being. ‘Darnell X’ did us a HUGE favor, because he embodies all the pathology that is the muck and scum of dysfunction.

The Black woman is putting herself in a very dangerous situation. She is placing herself as a God besides God. She is like the so-called Jews who scream Anti-Sematism whenever someone says anything of “TRUTH” against them. To come out as aggressive against this sister who is trying to close the gap between the sexes is appalling to me. The white man has had access to our women centuries before the Black man has had access to our women, (this is a fact). This comments shameful. Personal attacks and we wonder why our communities are messed up when we can’t heal and the MOST dangerous place for our babies is in their OWN MOTHER’S WOMB. Wake up sisters. We Love You. But your arrogance will destroy you. Read the stories of the women of the scripture. Read the Willie Lynch Letter. Read. Study. Study. Study. Look around you. I’m not taking up for these no good brothers and some of you have legitimate gripes but the majority chose the HELL you are experiencing now. real talk. Nobody put a gun to your head and made you choose them bums. Look in the mirror. Time is not on the Black Nation’s side. Hosea 4:6 My people WILL BE DESTROYED, for a LACK OF KNOWLEDGE…… not MAYBE but WILL……….. PEACE GREAT BLACK QUEENS!!!!

Let’s play a game. Let’s find all the crap that’s wrong with this comment and dissect it word for word.

CROCK Numero Uno: “The Black woman is putting herself in a very dangerous situation. She is placing herself as a God besides God.” Wait. Black women are putting themselves in danger by leaving the shackles of misguided loyalty to find their own bliss? Really? Funny; I don’t feel in danger, married, staying at home and living in suburban Disneyland. In fact, I’ve never felt safer in all my life. You know where I DON’T feel safe? At my mother’s place, who is one of the few home owners surrounded by Section 8 Hell. Somebody was shot and killed across the street a few years ago. Her neighbors have established a halfway house for juvenile miscreants. Oh. Her neighborhood is about 98% black. Now to the second sentence–are women playing the role as “goddesses” by commanding their own futures and not looking to receive any lame approvals by the GAT-DL, because they are the “true gods?” hmmm….the bat guano smells strong ’round here…

CROCK Numero Dos: “…we can’t heal and the MOST dangerous place for our babies is in their OWN MOTHER’S WOMB.” LMAO!!! Wait. The most dangerous place for “our” babies is their mother’s wombs? Not the drug dealers, pimps, murderers, thieves, thugs, crazies and players that knock them up? You mean, black men have absolutely NO POWER over their penises, and it’s the WOMAN’S JOB to police the behavior of black men? Well Darnell, if you’re “the leader” why the hell aren’t YOU leading?

CROCK Numero Tres: “Read the stories of the women of the scripture. Read the Willie Lynch Letter. Read. Study. Study. Study.” Uh…the “Willie Lynch Letter” is a fake. Proven, and proven again. Your inability to think critically along with a willingness to believe a letter as fake as a $3 bill AGAIN shows us that you are unfit to lead, unless it’s into a ditch.

CROCK Numero Cuatro: “I’m not taking up for these no good brothers and some of you have legitimate gripes but the majority chose the HELL you are experiencing now. real talk. Nobody put a gun to your head and made you choose them bums. Look in the mirror.” Now look VERY closely at his wording. This is a trick of the keystroke. First he appears to admit that there are no-good DBR’s out there, and tries to appear empathetic. But in the end, it’s US who are solely at fault, because we chose them. Ever think those DBR’s are just too a-plenty, and the “good” ones are like finding golden grass blades in Unicorn Land? But Darnell, there’s good news! Many black women ARE choosing well…but our knights aren’t all black, much to your chagrin, huh? It just KILLS you, doesn’t it, Darnell?

BIGGEST CROCK OF ALL: It just slays you that a good-looking, educated and talented woman has been lost to you hasn’t it? You’re dayum right I could have had a black man. But I could also had had a yellow man, red man, caramel man, or pink and polka-dot man. You know why? Because I woke up and realized I had options.

This post has gotten entirely too long, but stayed tuned for Part II and III as I spray more Raid.

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