Dating & Marrying Ethnic Men

Bryan and Chacha: A Custom Life Path Together, Part 2

I met Bryan and Chacha through Instagram, as I like to follow accounts where people show off their taste in fashion. I later found out that they would be a great fit for the blog. You can find their Instagram handles below.Thank you both for taking the time to speak with me. I hope you all enjoy this interview!


What is the best thing that you like about each other?

B: I love her smile and patience. 

C: I like that Bryan is extremely patient and he genuinely loves to see me happy.


What is the best part about being together?

B: Making our own custom path in life together. 

C: For me, being married to Bryan is bigger than us. I was raised by my dad and step-mother. God was preparing me all along to be someone’s step mother. Bryan had a daughter before I came in the picture and who better to raise her than someone who was once in her shoes? We are just carrying out God’s plan in our lives and that’s the only way I want to live.


What challenges have you faced? 

C: We both had to adjust to living together and building a routine for our family. It was challenging in the beginning but with time we got through it.


How has your family reacted?

C: On my end, Bryan is the first non-African in my family. In the beginning: my dad was worried that he might not understand the culture and that would cause conflict; but after meeting him and spending time with him, my family quickly realized he is very open minded.


How have your friends reacted? 

C:Our friends have been very supportive of us. They love us.


How are things now with friends and family? Are they supportive or are there any outstanding issues? 

B: Our friends and family get along well and are very supportive.

C: Our family and friends are the most supportive. We all get along and everyone is just waiting on us to have kids, ha ha.


How do you deal with difficult times?

B: Prayer, communication, and patience. Constant prayer together is so important.

C: We talk things out and give each other the space we need. If there is a problem, we pray about it. Prayer is the best.


Is this a new dynamic for you? 

C: I never imagined that I’d be married to someone outside my race and that I’d be a step mother, but I’m loving just being who God called me to be. Embracing my role as a wife and step mom.


What are some of the expectations you had before your relationship? 

C: Before meeting Bryan, I thought I’d be married to a doctor and living a lavish lifestyle. Oh boy, was I young and silly.


Looking back on those expectations, how have they changed? 

C: I realized I was focused on the wrong things. I was focused on money and status before I met Bryan and he was able to show me how to live a happy life with what you have. Another thing that really shifted my perspective was when I took my relationship with God more seriously. He was able to open my mind to what really matters in life.


What kind of boundaries protect your relationship? 

C: Respect is important. If you respect each other, you will understand the boundaries. Even when we disagree, we try to be respectful.


What are some of the things you do to keep your relationship growing?

B: It’s important to date each other, even after the wedding. Whether it is time alone, time together, just my wife and I, time with friends, time with family: A balance of all that is important. Prayer and learning together is also key.

C: I completely agree. We date each other. We make it a point to go out on dates and travel too.

Do you have a blog or YouTube channel?

B: We do not have a blog or YouTube channel, but we are both very active on Instagram. My Instagram handle is @dapperandsaved and Chacha’s is @chachaamin. 


Do you share about your family? 

C: We both share a good portion of our daily lives on Instagram.


Do you feel that your channel provides representation for you and couples like you?

C: Honestly, we just share our lives and hope that people can laugh and relate.


What advice would you give to others? 

C: We would say find yourself first and work on your relationship with God and everything will fall in place. Don’t focus on the negativity that may come with being in an interracial relationship. 

B: Live your life. Do not base your path on other people’s expectations.


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