A guy in the BB&W crew inspired this post because he wrote this:
But maybe thereâ€™s an issue which could be spun off from this one: white men finding themselves, unwittingly, in the crossfire of black media culture by emulation â€“ if at least by itâ€™s edges. Do we, as white men, need a map to help us identify where some of the more obscure landmines are, especially if we are â€œgoing publicâ€ with our thoughts and feelings over black women?
…Iâ€™m a newborn, ladies, when it comes to writing my thoughts and feelings in social forums. I write for two audiences: my wife, first and foremost, and black women who are open to what I have to say to themâ€¦about themâ€¦and for them. Perhaps Iâ€™m at a somewhat disadvantage, in that most of my friends and all of my side of the family, I left behind in Texas when I moved to my wifeâ€™s home state of Virginia after grad school. Those that I am closest to are her family. Add black media to my mix (movies, music, etc.), and you can understand my embarrassment of referring to strangers (my black woman audience), as queens. See my dilemma? What I think as positive words can be fuel for debate, and the unknowing white boy turning off the very black women heâ€™s trying to support, most especially those black women who want to be with us! I donâ€™t use ebonics when I write, so Iâ€™m not trying to be someone that Iâ€™m not. I just write the words how I would say themâ€¦and how I feel them. Christelyn, I need you to issue me a pass as I walk the halls of Facebookâ€™s IRR groupsâ€¦..:) I donâ€™t want to be called into your officeâ€¦..:)
Okay dear reader, I’m going to help you out. In fact, we all are…aren’t we ladies? Here are the 10 RAINBEAU-MAN COMMANDMENTS FOR THOSE WHO WISH NOT TO BE E-DROP KICKED:
Okay, I lied. I could only come up with six commandments, but I have NO DOUBT the ladies here will have loads of fun completing this sacred list of must-follow rules.
Have at it, ladies!