Subjects for the Question of the Week often come in themes. Lately I’ve gotten a lot of questions for men and women conflicted about starting workplace romances. Statistically, 2/3 of relationships are between people who have met at work. And while the term, “Don’t crap where you eat” may come to mind, there’s obviously enough people willing to take the risk. My buddies, Matthew Hussey and Jordan Harbinger seem to generally be against workplace relationships. I know that Jordan, my co-host on “Swirlr,” thinks this way because he has a law degree (although not practicing; he’s busy showing men how to take over the world) and is in general, very logical and practical. He generally has the opinion that you shouldn’t, but if you do, you better be ready to cut bait if the fish starts to stink.
On the other hand, Matthew Hussey, who is renowned for his exquisite beauty, adorable English accent, and oh…his New York Times best-selling book, Get the Guy, thinks that if you focus too much on people at work, it gives you a warped and somewhat limited dating experience.
I think both my brilliant and spectacularly handsome colleagues both make great points, but there’s room for a third side–mine. In the realm of interracial relationships, the workplace is often a facilitator for people of various races, backgrounds and cultures to come together and figure out how to keep their jobs. In so doing, these people spend a lot of time together, getting to know folks as individuals and not some amorphous, stereotypical walking, talking blob. It’s why so many people in the military marry interracially. You are exposed to people whom you literally depend on for your very life. Bonds are formed that melt away bigotry, and its in those situations romances are cultivated.
What’s more, the workplace might be the ONLY PLACE that you are exposed to men of various races and cultures, so by necessity I say black women, who need to entertain ALL relationship options, can’t really afford to rule dating a co-worker out completely. However, you have to follow a few ground rules:
*Matthew Hussey has an amazing video coaching series that I’ve watched start to finish. All I can say is, I wish I’d had it when I was single. It would have saved me a lot of time crying in my pillow.