Here’s Another Rainbeau Who Just Came Out of Lurkdom

On the surface Beyond Black & White might seem like a chick hangout. Bet you didn’t know that 30% of our readers are men. And why are they here? Take a guess.

I remember a few years ago, members of the GAT-DL (Guardians of All Things Dark and Lovely) made fun of us, and proffer that non-black men were not checking for us or this blog, nor were there any of them in sight who were interested in interacting and blogging on the topic of interracial relationships and black women.


Huh. How the worm has turned. I swear to you guys I get at least one or two letters from men per week, consistently. A BIG change is happening despite the detractors, and BB&W is at the forefront of rewriting history.

Here’s a letter I got just today:

Good afternoon,

I just wanted to say that I am a new reader to your site and thus far it has been an interesting read. I am a 24 year old white male, Marine Veteran and IT professional. My beautiful girlfriend and I have been together for 9 wonderful months now and being that she’s the first black woman that I have dated, I am astounded that I have found the one on the first try. We are not without our problems, I also have had an interest  in black culture since I was young; but we communicate through it all. I’m not a “wangsta” by any means but I do get down on some Otis Redding and Schoolboy Q. I would love to get her an autographed copy of your book, we love seeing swirls all over when we travel and I know that she would love it. I don’t know how many white male perspectives you get as far as relationships are concerned but I would be happy to do some writing, and or possibly give you insight. I have met most of her family and she has met most of mine. I am bursting with passion and love for our relationship and I see your articles as an outlet to resemble my thoughts with. I look forward to your reply and possibly working with you, nonetheless I will remain a fan. Thank you for your time and consideration.

(Photo of the writer and his beautiful girlfriend up yonder. And yeah; DAMN he’s fine!!)

You know what I’ve also noticed? Most of these men are in their 20’s. This is not a coincidence. This is a trend.

Welcome to the future, folks.

Oh and writer? You just earned yourself a free autographed copy of Swirling for your girl.

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