Here’s a bit of (seemingly) worthless trivia for you. Did you know that the grouper fish has a sidekick? Yes. While most little fish that come too close to this rather large one will soon make themselves its dinner, there is one fish, the cleaner, that the big guy totally respects. When the cleaner fish approaches, it does a little dance. The grouper recognizes it and stops mid-swim, and passively opens his big mouth and lets the cleaner go to work. It eats off all the debris and fungus left over from the other unfortunate fish who crossed its path. It’s a good setup. The grouper gets a detox and the cleaner gets a meal. All is well in fish land. Except that one very clever and devious fish called the saber-toothed blenny has spent enough time watching, observing and practicing the little dance of the cleaner fish. This interloper knows the dance so well that it can perform it identically to the cleaner. It hypnotizes the grouper, who would have normally known better, into passivity. And before it even knows what happened, the saber-toothed blenny takes a chunk of flesh from the grouper and flits away to make an escape.
So what does this story have to do with women? Think about it. Nearly from birth, women are conditioned to react and respond to the cues and characteristics of the men we like. Just like the grouper, we have an automatic response to the mating dance. When it’s a man of good character, this cooperative relationship works, well…swimmingly.
But just like the saber-toothed blenny, predatory men also carefully watch the behaviors of what we identify as “quality mate material” and perform their own version of the dance. Our automatic trigger responds to what we *think* is the man of our dreams and then POW! he takes his chunk of flesh and leaves you damaged and diminished before you even know what’s happened.
I’ve seen so many women be damaged by men they’d bet their entire futures on because they were under a trance. Perhaps it was faulty conditioning from childhood, poor mate selection skills, or narcissistic and sociopathic men, it’s all the same story. These women reported that the men who victimized them appeared to be everything they wanted until they were so entranced that it left them vulnerable to be deeply hurt.
I’m so glad that my Pink Pill students have embraced my teachings on mercenary mate selection enumerated in the course, and can also commiserate with their Pink Pill sisters in our private Facebook group for even more coaching and support. We’re currently celebrating two recent engagements!
Unfortunately, most black girls and women are born into broken homes where examples of healthy relationships aren’t always displayed. Many still have focused so much on school and career that their knowledge of male/female relationships is virtually non-existent.
Pink Pill or no, be mindful of the man who has the power to put you under a spell. Watch your back. He might take a bite out of it.
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