Let’s face it. The world reacts a lot differently when one type of does this…
And when another looks like this…
Don’t believe me? Google “black woman crying” and see how many photos you see. Now go back and Google “woman crying” and see the race most represented in that group.
No wonder everyone get shocked when a black woman cries. It will inspire anger, confusion, and more often than not, outright mocking.
From media and television personality, Danielle Belton:
Black women deal with a lot of “expectations” about our behavior and what we should or should not do. And as a teenager I can remember my peers utter disdain for how it seemed certain white girls could start crying at any given moment over any particular thing and about how weak and pathetic and needy that was. And as my peers would go on and on about the apparent weakness of fragile-hearted white women, I would say nothing because I had a not-so-secret secret.
I wasn’t like my black girlfriends who only started crying if they were about to fight someone because they were so full of rage, or maybe shed a tear over a crappy boyfriend or two. I was like those white girls.
I cried over every dang thing.
Always had and still do, to the befuddlement of my parents and friends and pretty much every black person in my life. But I truly can’t help it. I feel feelings. I feel all the feelings and sometimes that means bawling your eyes out because of “hormones” or “memories” or dreaded “hurt feelings.”
Yes. My name is Danielle Belton. I’m a black woman. And I cry. A lot.
This downright refusal to allow ourselves to “feel the feels” will manifest even if you can control your waterworks. It will come out when you have blind binge session on the kitchen floor. I comes out in our quick-to-anger attitudes and lack of empathy for others. It comes out in how we interact at work, home and with family. Your refusal to cry won’t stop your mind from remembering.
One alarming study revealed that non-black subjects believed black people can tolerate more pain on average that women of their own racial groups. If we don’t show our humanity to each other , How can expect others to?
What if things like obesity, high blood press and heart disease, and stroke could be curing because you let your pain out?
Join us for the LIVE Google hangout with special guest, Breukelen Bleu. This is a not-to-missed event.
Remember, crying isn’t about not coping. It’s about purging your vessel so you can (hopefully) let some good stuff in.