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Episode of Three of “Swirlr” is Here! ...

In this episode, clients Quintana and Kurt interact with the candidates to test their chemistry. Kurt seems to hit it off with each of the three girls...
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“Would a Rainbeau Accept My Special Needs Ch...

Dylan A recent post on my Facebook community page sparked the question: “Would a rainbeau accept my special needs child??  Any single woman wh...
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A Heartfelt Letter from a White Guy, Wondering How...

I don’t know if you guys realize how much of an impact this site has, and how many notes I get like this on a weekly basis. Men you thought woul...
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Where the Guys Are: New York City Version

I’ve just recently found myself living in Brooklyn, New York, and though this change wasn’t planned, it’s definitely a great opportu...
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dating, romance, intimacy, sociopaths, sex, vetting,

Five Reasons Sociopaths Are So Good In Bed

He takes you to a five-star hotel and whispers to the concierge before you go into the room. You have drinks and he won’t take his eyes–al...
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teens, readers, dating, lessons, vetting, interracial dating, mixed relationships, advice, discussion, community, young black women, options, future, marriage, positivity,

A Letter from a Teenager Who Found BB&W

When I get notes like this, I swear, everything makes sense. So glad more girls and women are coming out of the shadows and telling their truth. And a...
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dating non black men, question, advice, video, Youtube, reader, help, flirting, dating, mixed couples,

Lesson: Black Chicks Need to Know When Non-Black M...

I continue to be amazed about how many young girls really are clueless about dating. This isn’t anything to be ashamed about–this is easil...
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Surrender Versus Submission: What You Don’t ...

All this talk of men, sex, and femininity, yet again, has got my mind sizzling with ways in which I might be able to explain to you what’s so aw...
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dating, relationships, mating, interracial relationship, meeting mates, app, digital dating, hook ups, Niki McElroy, Tinder, black women looking for non black men, how can I meet guys,

Author of “Black Girls Guide to Dating White...

My buddy and fellow IR author, Niki McElroy, author of  A Black Girls Guide to Dating White Men, recently took an 8-month ride on Tinder, the popula...
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Guess Who’s Coming to the Prom? EBONY Magazi...

Thank lawdbejeezus that today’s teenagers don’t have as many hangup about interracial relationships that the older folks seem to have. Acc...
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Patrick Wanin, Ph.D, Matthew Hussey, black women, femininity, perception, gender roles, dating, dynamics, inter human relationships, interracial dating, womanhood, sexuality, stigma, masculinity, what is femininity, black women are feminine,

Femininity Series, Part One: “What Does It M...

The topic of femininity is so polarizing. On one end, you have women who feel like even the discussion of femininity is a threat to feminism, and wome...
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Halle Berry Rumored Split Leads Me to Ask, “...

Apologies in advance to #TeamHalle stans, but I’m scratching my head about the news that Halle Berry might be splitting from yet another partner...
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How Self Described “Good Guys” Usually...

I’m the type of female that listens with her Spidey sense when it comes to men attempting to state their case on why I should consider them a fo...
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Fear of Social Consequences Squelches Relationship...

I just saw this response from a guy who commented on this post, and I thought it warranted a separate discussion: Sounds like this guy has some pretty...
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