Beware the Terriorism of ‘Blackistan!’

Beware the Terriorism of ‘Blackistan!’

Yes; ‘Blackistan’ is a real place. It’s in just about every city in the U.S.

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Terrorist: a person who terrorizes  or frightens others.

Terror: The use of such fear to intimidate people, esp. for political reasons

I hate to say it, but why does it seem that the biggest terrorists in Blackistan are females? I know there are some who will respond to this post with a long tirade of “black women have it hard”,  “black women need to catch a break”,  “black women have enough to deal with  without being jumped on for every little thing”or some form defense to which I respond EXACTLY  so back to the heart of my original question, why do black women make it harder on themselves and others by engaging in acts of terrorism towards other black women? I know there are plenty of Blackistani males who inflict their own damage but I want to focus on the females because their contribution can be more damaging.  The “terrorist” acts take different forms with one goal in mind, to keep women from leaving Blackistan in mind, in body, or both and to remind her she is nothing special.

Some of the acts of terror are as follows:

1. Attacking a black woman’s success by tearing her down in some way.

When Gabby Douglas won 2 gold medals in gymnastics at the 2012 Olympics the dominating comments on twitter were not in celebration of her success, but to criticize her hair and her failure (in their shallow opinion) to represent black women properly. If you think these were just teen girls, guess again the good number of posts I read were from adult women including one who prided herself in being a pre-med student on the path to great achievement. I found the whole situation disgusting! All the hard work and dedication this young lady and her family invested in her to achieve this great accomplishment and all these shallow women can do is harp about her hair! However, this is not an isolated incident. I see black women who are striving for excellence constantly being torn down not just through insults verbal and written, but other methods as well including economic terrorism. What do I mean by that? Many (not all) “Blackistani” women will not support other black women in business, they will boycott her products and/or services because their jealousy will not allow them to support or celebrate her success. If that will not work they will nit pick or find fault with what she has to offer to discourage others from supporting her. If they find a use for her products or services to their benefit, they will use emotional extortion to try to manipulate her into letting them have access to her products or services for free or at a heavily discounted price which will hurt her profit margin making it nearly impossible for her to re-invest in her business. If she should stand firm in what she charges for her product or service, phrases like “oh come on help a sista out”, or “who do you think you are?” are leveled at her and if she decides to make her products more appealing to people outside the “compound”, she is accused of selling out or forgetting where she came from.

In the workplace, it is no better, and in my personal 30 year work history my worst bosses and co-workers were Blackistani females. This is not a sweeping accusation against all black women in corporate America that is why I said “my personal experience” because I know someone will comment and counter my statement with defenses of “I have never experienced that” or some variation of that statement. I have worked in different environments over the last 30 years and I have dealt with bad behavior in all races, but the Blackistani women in those environments always stood out and they always seemed to go out of their way to make it hard on each other in one way or another and I could not understand why. I worked in an office at a bank with all Blackistani women. I tried  to do my work and stay to myself. These women constantly ganged up on me criticizing my work, my hair and my clothes and the manager was the one leading the charge! I finally got out of there, but it left an impression on my mind at how much anger, fear and insecurity which is at the root of a lot of this behavior and greatly hinders what black women could achieve if these factors were not in the way.

2. Making attempts to put  black women who speak proper English, have “non-black” interests ( rock music, are goth,opera, etc.), behave with politeness, or are bi-racial in a position to make them   “prove”  they are genuinely  “black”  (whatever that means).

Logan West, Miss Teen USA 2012  is a beautiful bi-racial young woman who was bullied in school by a female classmate for not “acting her color”. She said for about a period of 9 months she lost her sense of worth and identity. After she found her footing again, she set up an anti-bullying program that became her platform when she was crowned Connecticut’s Outstanding Teen 2010 and when she recently won the Teen USA title.

One of my friends was  constantly being chased home from school when she was young by a pack of black girls who were screaming “you think you are better than us”. My friend is fair skinned with shoulder length hair. Girls were constantly threatening to beat her up because of how she looked. Another friend of mine was mockingly called “Miss Sophisticated” by her female peers because she spoke well and carried herself like a lady, and yet another friend of mine caught grief from female relatives because she enjoyed classical music. This constant  harassment that Blackistani women inflict on other black women is destructive and I cannot understand why they see another woman’s looks, choices and/or behavior that is different from their own as such a threat that they feel the need to bully and harass these women to the point they are constantly put on the defensive. Then these same women have the audacity to get angry when the women they are terrorizing reach their breaking point and start fighting back.

3. Throwing women and girls into the volcano as a “sacrifice” to protect DBR men and boys.

When the news reported about  an 11 year old girl was gang raped by 17 men, the voice of outrage was not heard, instead Blackistani women were saying in unison, “she was probably fast anyway.” In the movie “Woman thou art loosed”, the main character, a troubled young woman was 9 when her mother’s boyfriend raped her. When she told her mother, her mother accused her of lying, being fast and punished her. Recently a star basketball player headed for college, was sentenced to three years for violently  beating up his ex-girlfriend. The crying and sobbing from the black women in the courtroom was not for the girl, but for the young man. In some black sororities, the “sisters” will take one of the freshmen girls in their sorority  over to a black fraternity house where she will be gang raped. School officials know this goes on, but pay off families to keep it a secret. The men are never arrested or expelled.

I have story after story where Blackistani women help to damage and destroy black women and girls because of this perverted loyalty to DBR men. One of the main justifications for covering up this horrible behavior is “they don’t want to put another black man in jail,” or “we gotta stand by our men.”  The only black men that do not deserve to be in jail are the ones who have committed no crimes to be there! In all honesty the women who abate and assist these criminals should occupy the very cells they “spared” a DBR from at the expense of a woman or girls life.

4. Bullying and harassing women who do not want to be brood mares ( having kids with DBR men to “preserve” the black race), a pack mule (to carry the black community’s burdens for the sake of the “struggle”), or reject this false notion of black love ( directed at swirlers) with the accusation they are betraying their race

These Blackistani women keep trying to sell black women a bridge that does not exist by encouraging them to drink the Kool-Aid. They try to brainwash women with the notion that doing these things is for the greater good of the community and that in the end they will be rewarded for giving their wombs, backs and hearts for “the cause”. HOGWASH!! The only thing these women will have if they accept that nonsense is a wasted womb, a broken back,broken heart and any woman who listens to them is setting themselves up and they will have no one to blame but themselves. They have to get away from these women and drown out the the lies they are spouting, their lives are at stake!

Some of the famous Blackistani women who support this foolishness do not serve as a good example but they are always in black magazines  and singing in the concerts spouting the black love rhetoric and support and sacrifice for the community. Erykah Badu has 3 children by 3 different fathers and married none of them. Jill Scott has a child by a man who did not commit to her and is also raising her child alone at the moment (she is engaged to be married). Both of these women spout this Afro-centric black love nonsense that has done nothing to contribute to women making better choices for their lives. Being famous well paid musicians and song writers, the can afford to have kids without fathers in the picture, though an intact two parent family is still vital and they too are selling to  impressionable women a non-existent bridge.

5. The Iron Snowflake: Blackistan’s secret weapon:

This Blackistani woman is the most dangerous of them all. Why? Because she encourages women to be “frogs” in the pot of slowly boiling water. She herself is benefiting from making right choices; her IR marriage, successful career/business, etc. Her white picket fence is pitched just on the outskirts of Blackistan, but she tries to turn back women trying to escape with her “voice of reason”.  What benefit does she derive from this? Her “unique” status remains intact.  If too many escape, then her life story becomes ordinary. So she tries to discourage them from dating and mating out by saying , “I married a  white, Asian, Hispanic, etc. man. I am happy but it is not a big deal, stay where you are.” She will not share her business secrets that help to create her wealth and success, she says to those who are hungry for more and want to build wealth themselves, “You don’t want the hassle, stay where you are.” She is a human detour sign that  that downplays the benefits of escaping from destructive circumstances that if heeded sends women and girls back into the burning building they just  escaped from.

The worst kind of terrorism is not deranged people with explosives strapped to their bodies and running into buildings or public transportation, it is those who while driving down the road of destruction invite others to join them, threaten those who refuse, and if possible try to strap them to the seat next to them for they refuse to ride alone. They don’t want  you to leave because they need you for the body count.

Think about it.

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The reason Blackistan exists is because black women have been left out of the racial discussions. When you view other communities both the men and the women are present amongst discussion about race and racial injustice. Go research the civil rights movement and see how misogynistic it was. Some of the black men in that movement didn't even acknowledge black women, like today many of them saw it as me vs. "THE MAN". The black women back then much like now didn't realize that, they only saw and were told to stand beside black men at all costs. Doesn't matter that plenty of black women contributed to the movement themselves, that's not what they were trained and told. What you have  Black women are not. That's because the black race has for decades made the racial discussion only about "BLACK MEN VS. WHITE MEN" that's all we see when referring to race. Combine that with the fact that we've trained black women to internalize misogyny, male patriarchy and sexism because of the need to defend black men at all times, it's pretty much a lost cause for the black female. Black men know they have privilege as men and as black men. They reap the benefits of always being victims because all we can think of is what the white man did to the black man during slavery, so anytime a black male is held accountable for something he knows he shouldn't have done, we tell him "Hey brotha it's okay, I'll clean those millions of glasses of milk you've spilled up for you, it's not your fault you have to exist in a society orchestrated by the white man, here you get a pass". I see this "back patting" mainly done by black women, the DBR women you described. See they don't realize that none of this benefits them as women or as a group, they don't care all their trained minds tell them to do is defend black men at any cost even if that means throwing their fellow black women under the bus in the process. I've seen black women reject the notion that they too are victims to their own communities and society, but at the same time accept the fact that black men, any black male the thug, the professional brotha, whatever is to be pretocted and defended against racism and stereotypes at all times because he'sa  victim by default, according to them. The strong black woman mentality has become delluded. It was a sense of pride and ability to relish in the face of adversity but now it's made a lot of black women dellusional to reality. We're to engulfed in it to the fact we don't even realize the beating we're taking day in and day out. Black women are taught to be loyal, whereas the black male is taught to almost be a rebel. We see it as him saying "I'm going to do what I want to do despite what the white man says" which is why black men can date and procreate with other races, and no one tells him "Hold on brotha why didn't you get you a good black woman". Meanwhile black women are shamed to hell and back for even thinking about dating and using her womb to procreate with another race of man. We call her a traitor, a white man worshipper, a jezebel and anything in between, so she feels embarrass and continues to put up with the bias in her own community out of fear of rejection. Black men know those DBR women exists which is why they feel they can say and do as they please. These women will clean their slates, fix their reputations, and make sure their image is still intact, which gives them even more margin for error.

 

I've seen these same women criminalize, dehumanize, and shame their own sistahood like they would never do these DBR men. Where's the black woman's shoulder to lean on? Who's our protection? How can we have the privilege of having some margin for error when our own sistahood isn't even on our side?

 

The sistas are so inclinded that they bash and belittle their own. I've never come across black women, outside of Michele Obama who supports and wish other black women success. Think of any black female celebrity and I bet you can come up with tales of how black women dislike them despite their success "In the right way". Name celebrities that consiste of black men and other groups and tell me can you come up with the same thing? Nope! You can bash Beyonce and other black female celebrities despite gaining success the right way, because well for some reason you just can't stand her, you don't care how talented she is, (I never understood why black women said that) but can support rappers like Lil Wayne  Mr. "B-tch look better red" because you just can't help it you like his music, and good music, is good music" does that even make sense? Of course it doesn't.

 

The women step on their own sistahood to uphold and protect the black male. They come with this false preaching about black love when in reality it's about the black male's reputation. A group of black women considering giving their DNA to anything other than a black man is what they really care about, not some loyalty to black love, but loyalty to black offspring. These women are more obsessed with getting back at whitey than the black men who sit back and enjoy their efforts, it's laughable. The men sit back and laugh because they see them like their little parrots, they say and do everything they say and do. It's perfect. These women are against feminism because their male counterparts are, but at the same time agree with and go along with misogyny, patriarchy and sexism because their male counterparts are for it. Like I said it's a perfect thing for them. It's like a community full of zombies, some black women can't operate out of the black man's shadow because that's not how she was taught. When people are under mind control they become aggressive and defensive when they're shown or taught things different outside of what they were trained. They panic and look for reasurrance, the assurance is the black male.

 

 

Look how powerful our voice is as black women, that we can make an entire group of men look good even at their worst! Why don't we use these same voices "FOR THE PROTECTION OF ONE ANOTHER"!! WHY!!!

 

These women can't even see defending and busting their butts to protect Blackistan is like a slow individual death. They're not benefitting from it at all, they're so mind warped they can't even see it, it's sad. I'm waiting for the wake-up call some black women desperately need it. BLACK WOMEN IT'S NOT YOUR DUTY TO PROTECT BLACK MANHOOD AND IT'S NOT YOUR DUTY TO KEEP SOCIETY ON TRACK, the faster black women break this mind control the more black women leave Blackistan.

Criticalthinker 385 pts

BBW tore it up with the TRUTH on this one! I have lost count at what Blackistani females have done to me in the workplace and other life incidents. The misadventures of those wanting to forget moments? Today I won't go there. However the first ones may be obvious to the intelligent mind of non-Blackistani BW, though the last one speaks volumes and needs your focus as it is quite trickier. Though she may look like you and even seems as if her life and mind may not be Blackistan but deters you from the same thing she has...be clever and recognize the wolf in sheep's clothing-yeah!

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MissFLondon 655 pts

 Kia This is madness!!! Does this idiot want Oprah to come and sit on the corner of the street with him?? 

She is obviously still suffering from a refusal to detach; she should not have  responded to this man at all. You can't placate some people - ever.

DeepWater 2464 pts

 Kia   I love Oprah Winfrey.   She came from less than zero.   Now look at this woman, 2.7B (that's 2.7 Billion dollar empire) her empire is worth (lucky if I go $2.70 at any given time......bwaaaahhaaaaa)  but admire her much.    If she can do it, we can do it.   Dude just lookin' for a handout instead of a hand up.    Do I like Oprah all the time, no.   Do I admire her business moxy, most definitely.   I remember her in her Baltimore days before her local show in Chi-town, then going national, I believe around 1984 or so.    She's THE woman I keep "a nekkid eyball" on.   You don't have to like her but I'll be damned if that woman hasn't done BIG THANGS to change her and the lives of others.   A toast to you Ms. Winfrey.  A business TITAN runnin' with the BIG DOGS, ya heard me? Can't run wid dem, then sit yo' butt down and watch this woman run thangs.   Word.

Kiwiwriter 614 pts

 Kia My boss, Mayor Booker, always had a good answer to people who would say that not talking or writing in proper English was being true to black culture.

 

He'd whip out a book by Frederick Douglass or W.E.B. DuBois or Maya Angelou and challenge his questioner, saying, "How about writing and talking like them? They're black people."

 

This deliberate misuse of the English language is just a tool ignorant and cynical people use to keep more people ignorant...and cynical. Hell, if I was into conspiracy theories, I'd accuse the white upper-crust of promoting "ebonics" as a means to keep black people ignorant and incapable of gaining economic or political power.

DeepWater 2464 pts

 Kia   Whoooooop, there it is.   Yuppers.

JimZaccaria 10 pts

That's some kinda Crazy ! Sad that people can't treat eachother with Dignity and Respect. I found the article AND comments 'enlightening' ... some 'horrifying' & Deeply Saddening. My desire is for everyone afflicted and attacked to find Love and Healing.

Nikki J 338 pts

This article is informative but overall it's pretty sad. I just don't get why we as women can't or won't be happy for one another. Especially the Iron Snowflake. I started to laugh at her description but stopped to truly think about it. Many times people come disguised as friends and have a knife ready to stab you in the back. Smh...crazy. Being a little nosy here but does anyone have an example of an iron snowflake in their personal life they wouldn't mind sharing? Lol I believe it, but people think they're so unique that they would discourage others because of a desire to be the only special ones. That's mind blowing to me, it's like please behave like an adult. But after you spot them it's clear how see through they are. At my old job I had coworkers older than me pushing me to start grad school right away. They sounded like my parents and I love and appreciate them for that. And than there are the num 1 Blackistan's that like to tear your success down. Unlike the other coworkers who really tried to push me, they encouraged me to make money now and go back to school in a few years? And OMG they did it in the nicest way...terrible. It was really eye opening.

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JannaAshley 583 pts

 Kia 

 

I've felt that for sure. I interact with all strangers the same way, but I feel like a lot of times if it's another black person they act too familiar, if you know what I mean. I've been flirted with by different races, but it's always the black guys that have really, really hit on me aggressively. Like being too damn close to my face, the second sentence is them asking for a number, just rudeness, thinking they can call you out anytime or anywhere. And btw, I know this does not apply to all black men...

MZ Elf 2727 pts

Promised Blackistan story:

 

I take my father to his appts at the VA hospital in San Diego to alleviate me worrying about his hour plus long trek down and around the mountains and to spend some time with him.

 

I have gone a few times before and know the routine. Mostly men that work and are patients there so there are a lot of looks. I usually look nice and it does get attention but in an environment with nothing but mostly men, it is like walking through a prison, lolz.

 

This particular time I noticed many of the men acknowledging my father to the point that it was a little intrusive. I looked to see if the same was being done with other men sans the daughter companion and.... you already know the answer. I didn't want to over think it so I let it go. *Side note*: My dad always leaves feeling overwhelmed with the responses to me, lolz. His look is priceless.

 

When you leave, the prescriptions and the travel expense area usually has a little wait. As on the way up, men...black men only, felt the need to interrupt my lively sing-song-ish chat I like to do with my dad. So much that I started to get irritated. I couldn't understand why they felt it necessary to talk to him and not every other black man there since there are plenty to chose from that would love the exchange(my dad doesn't).

 

Normally, I stand in line for his travel expense checkout and at the last minute, my dad will stand until he is called. As we came to that area, a man who worked there said something to him in passing that I ignored since by then I had put the imaginary ear plugs in. When it got close to time for my dad to be called, he came over and I replaced him in his seat, a wheelchair. Immediately, I heard a voice behind me coming down the hall and thought.."oops, I probably am going to be told it is only for patient use". NOPE!!!! The same man that worked there and had spoken to my dad upon arrival for no apparent reason, decided to come and tell me how I shouldn't sit there because....get this....HE is superstitious! HUH???? I looked him square in the eye and said with a smile that did not reach my eyes. "I am not and I am just fine here. Been doing this for years and have no intention of stopping". Whoa...what in Hades possessed him to give me orders based on HIS superstitions?

 

That would have probably not lingered but this next move did. He went to the line to tell my daddy on me!!!! He gave his superstitious schpeel and my dad, being of very little tolerance, gave him a very blank and un-"brotherly" look and told him that superstitions are more dangerous and kill people. LOLZ    I must admit, he can be a bear with most people but this was perfect timing.'The guy slinked away and I went back to reading my Kindle IN the wheelchair with an amused smirk.

 

Guess what? Another man comes down the hallway to rescue me from my Kindle and the story I was close to finishing! Golly gee...thanks! He decided to stop in front of me, the wheelchair and my kindle gripped tightly and nearly up to my face. I look up with a  raised brow at a man gripping his backpack who resembles Grady Wilson from Sanford and Son.

 

http://myoldkentuckytales.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/grady-wilson.jpg

 

He says "HI! Ok, um, why? This hospital is huge, why me and why do you think you? I am black? I see no other woman being targeted. Why did this and the other man feel the need to throw themselves in my world?

 

So, I do the nice thing and say hi back. He grins and asks me my name. I say it and he asks if it starts with a Z and I say no a C and it is silent. He looks confused but grins and asks can he shake my hand. Eeeek.....now do I continue my charity and overall good nature or do I just put the cards out there? For the sake of the environment and possibility that he is special needs, I quickly remember all of the hand sanitizing stations and decide to extend my hand. He leaves after bidding me a good day and I do the same. Is it over? NOPE!!! He comes back after I finally get back to my last few pages and says that he forgot to tell me his name. By then, I had enough so I just looked at him and said ok. A woman near me that was Asian looked so dumbfounded by all of it that I had to say "Blackistan at its height".

 

My dad was not happy with the exchanges and I wonder if he is going to stop having me take him. It really gets crazy. No matter how old he gets, the men eyeing his daughter with nearly no respect, approaching him and I as if they have some special passport and acting like that seems to make him pretty hot. I was so hot and told him he needed to get over his "you can't bring a white boy home" thoughts. I asked him how he would want me with any men like that but then have a problem with me dating/marrying someone like his therapist that he thinks is the absolute best just because he is white? He is quite the cutie, very kind and actually lets my dad call him on his personal number if he needs to. My dad was silent. We know what No response means,lolz

Karla 18246 pts

 MZ Elf Wow... just, wow!

Bellydancer 789 pts

 Kiwiwriter Somebody needs to start snitching on these fools and some organizations need to lose their charters for this type of mess. Some black magazine needs to get this story and run an expose' like they used to do when stuff like this happened but black journalism has lost it's way and only complains on white folks when they do something bad. Maybe we need a black college post but since most of the people that support the black greek system are NBABM supporters we would not get an unbiased biew of the whole thing.

Bellydancer 789 pts

Lawdy I started rocking back and forth while reading this if somebody had seen me they would have called the peoples on me! (lol)

Wow the whole black college rape thing really surprises me I know white sororties do crazy shit like that cuz I read a book where some ex college girls talked about that. Somebody needs to snitch on those damn frats cuz none of those men marry bw after graduation no how so why are bw providing ass for them (scratches head)

 

Black women have become their own enemy and don't forget about the old ones who sleep with other women's husbands and then look at you like you crazy cuz you want your own or get mad cuz you don't date in the same circles as them and wnat more, these women see nothing wrong with man sharing and think it's cute.

 

Chile please let me get a better paying job so I can get better cable and stay the hell home more (lol)

I had to tell a black lady in the movies who sat right in front of me this weekend to please turn off her phone cuz the light was interfering with me watching the movie she did it but kind of turn around to look at me. I said don't let this woman say shit to me cuz I am tired of people and these damn phones and computers at the movies, she had already came late and should have checked her phone in the lobby.

 

Number 5 is the most dangerous of all cuz she seems like she would be in your corner but she has a last one in close the door mentality that is prevelant with most upper class blacks nowdays like the ones who side eye us and make fun of our "movement" but yet have did the same things and prospered (SMDH)

MadamCJCPA 1125 pts

This posting is the God's honest truth!  I'm going to copy and paste this one for future reference for when my daughter is older, in order to prepare her on the types of people she will encounter out in the world outside of her immediate family.

Kiwiwriter 614 pts

Very upset and dismayed by this story about black sororities subjecting pledges to gang rape...this is a betrayal of the cause of women's rights, and of human decency. I am appalled that such behavior is going on and is condoned.

 

All this does is legitimize rape, the objectification of women, and treating them as property. It demeans them and destroys their self-respect. It also ruins their view of sex, which should be a beautiful shared experience with a loved one.

 

I've been told by pals at work that black fraternities have had very harsh pledging practices, but I had no idea sororities were just as bad. But then, the female is often the harsher of the species.

AmanitoreMeriAmen 16 pts

 Kiwiwriter What would you expect from blacks who think that they are greek? How could any Black willingly take upon themselves the name or label of one of the first colonizers of Mother Africa? And be proud of it?

Envision the reality.  Blacks do not exist in the White conscious world.  In fact, Blacks are as invisible as the character in Ralph Ellison’s book, "Invisible Man".  This reality has unfortunately created an eagerness for Black people to jump on the “whitewashed bandwagon” and to be noticed by Whites, and it is expected—You’ve been trained. So that, when we are accepted into these organizations or groups, we profess with boastfulness, “Oh!” “I’m part White,” “I’m part Indian,” or “I’m multiracial.  I'm a greek/mason, etc !

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Christelyn 8886 pts moderator

 Toni_M  AmanitoreMeriAmen  Kiwiwriter Face palm, indeed. ugh...but as this blog continues to hit record hits, the crazies will come. The price of tea, and all that...

Toni_M 18953 pts moderator

 Christelyn   AmanitoreMeriAmen  Kiwiwriter Oop sorry, editing. ^^' 

 

Anyway, it makes no sense to try and excuse inexcusable behavior with "the white man made them do it"! Where is the self-accountability? This is why I don't go around trying to co-opt other people. Half the time, you're wrong for doing it and the other half you're wrong about the people you're trying to claim.

 

Toni_M 18953 pts moderator

 AmanitoreMeriAmen  Kiwiwriter 

 

*face palm*

 

 

The reality is that people do wrong because they choose to do wrong. You can dress up the excuses, because that's all I'm reading here, anyway you want to. But it doesn't change the fact that you have some twisted young people who are in college to learn spending their time doing things they've got no business doing.

 

FFS, when are people like yourself going to stop trying to pass the buck and accept responsibility for yourself?

 

 

And by the way, if you knew anything about college fraternities/sororities, nobody treats it like an actual ethnicity and they would be nuts to do so.

 

Also....you *do* realize that a good portion of slavery would not have happened without the cooperation of people from "Mother Africa" during that time period, right? Heck, a good portion of the oppression and suffering happening in parts of the continent are caused BY black people. Just look up the "Invisible Children". This idea that everyone who is causing harm or evil in the world must be white simply isn't true; it's the heart of the person, not their race or skin color. 

 

 

Also, we've already had a post about bi-racial children determining their own identity. Like it or not, it's none of your business how other people label themselves. I have no interest in trying to claim people I don't know anyway. Let other people call themselves whatever they want. They can be Vulcans. It has no bearing on my life. *shrug*

tracyreneejones 3596 pts

@Toni_M @AmanitoreMeriAmen @Kiwiwriter *Vulcan fingers* live long and prosperous.

sMoriarty 505 pts

Speaking of "getting out" (even though my neighbourhood isn't really that bad). I uh, enlisted in the Navy. Yeah, I'll be leaving for Boot Camp in a few months. Sooooo, if you don't see me around for a while, Im not dead. I'll probably just be getting my ass handed to me in Basic Training. 

Karla 18246 pts

 sMoriarty I was in the Navy for 22 years.  Just remember, boot camp is a game, at times.  Don't take anything personally, never let them see you sweat (unless you're doing PT), develop a poker face and, above all, maintain your sense of humor.  Don't laugh out loud though; do it in your head.  If you want to get ahead of the game, get out there and start running, doing push-ups, riding a bike, swimming, whatever so you'll be in top physical condition.  Also, learn how to polish shoes the military way and polish your brass.  For more information: http://www.bootcamp.navy.mil/prepare.asp, http://usmilitary.about.com/od/navyjoin/l/aanavybasic1.htm.  If you're prepared, you won't get your a$$ handed to you and some of it may even be a breeze.

sMoriarty 505 pts

 Karla 

Thanks for the advice! Im already walking 5-10 miles a day. Yeah, a little excessive but I want to be ready. I just ordered a pair of New Balance sneakers, because Ive been doing my daily walks in my Converse, but they're just not good for walking long distances

These are the ones a bought:

 http://www.newbalance.com/Minimus-20v2-Trail/WT20-V2,default,pd.html?dwvar_WT20-V2_color=Pink_with_Grey&start=1&cgid=201000&srule=By%20Customer%20Ratings

 

Swimming is no problem, Ive been swimming all my life and I just need to practice doing more sit ups. I admit, Im crap at pushups but Ive been following this routine where everyday I do 4 reps of 20 wall pushups, with 2 minute breaks between each set. And in about a week I'll be able to move onto Elevated pushups (pushups on the edge of the bed or a park bench or something). Then after about 2 or 3 weeks I'll move on to real pushups, and try to do as many of those as I can. By the time Basic Training gets here, Im confident I'll be able to hold my own. 

 

Ive also incorporated Mountain Climbers 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHjdc2QVRUQ

 

& 8 Count Body Builders into my routine

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TxQT-wZdP28

Although Im sure you know way more about those way more intimately than I do haha. 

 

Ah, yes. I do need to practice polishing boots. Thanks for reminding me! I don't  own a pair myself, I may need to steal my dad's lol.

 

Also do you know a place online where I can learn the ranks?  Like who's the "Chief," whose "Sir" whose the "Petty Officer." I'd like to learn that before I get there too.

 

Im really excited about this. Ive never been away from home like this. Im alittle overzealous. 

Kiwiwriter 614 pts

Just saw your new note...good that you're doing the PT. I did not do 8-count Body Builders, as I did not know about them. I wish I did.

 

My company commanders made us do 8-count body builders, and you are only supposed to do a limited number of them. When they exceeded that number, they made us do them, only counting backwards, so we could get to "Zero," and they could say we had done "zero" Body Builders.

 

Another game they would play would be to make their victim do push-ups, and at about 20, ask him "how many brothers and sisters you got?" The recruit, eager to please, would say, "Two," or "one," and the company commanders would say, "Two? You owe me more push-ups than that." One recruit, asked this question at 36 push-ups, said, "Thirty-six, sir!" and the CCs told him to get up on his feet...they couldn't play the game.

 

Your recruiter should have given you a booklet with Navy ranks. Everybody over Master Chief Petty Officer is a "sir" or "ma'am," but in boot camp, everybody is a "sir" or a "ma'am," to get you used to military courtesy and saluting. It's the only place you will encounter "Chief Petty Officer's Mast," which you will want to avoid. One senior chief petty officer liked to conduct that by eating raw onions and then breathing in the face of the recruit.

 

Also make sure you can print letters properly...you will have to write information in notebooks from the morning schoolhouse classes on such subjects as Naval History, First Aid, Painting, Watchstanding, and other testable subjects.

Karla 18246 pts

 sMoriarty There's an article about rank, etc. in one of the internet sites I gave you.  It's very complete.  I will tell you this and it stood me in good stead.  The Navy is what you make of it.  Yeah, it's authoritarian but it's the military; that's what they do best.  There are times when it will truly get on your nerves and you will wonder why the heck you joined.  Then, there are times when it's absolutely fabulous (traveling, meeting new people and experiencing different cultures).  At boot camp, they call themselves breaking you down and then making a sailor out of you.  Once you get why they make you do things over and over, why they constantly denigrate you or tell you you're not good enough, it's cake.  You are good enough and, let's be real, you volunteered.  The services are all volunteer and they need every person they bring in so it's a game; they want you but "you're not good enough".  Sense of humor... maintain it.  That's the best advice I can give you.  Also, maintain rationality and logic.  I stayed for 22 years and made it work for me.

Kiwiwriter 614 pts

 Karla  sMoriarty Yes, I was amused by the irony that the recruiter desperately wants you in the Navy, but the staff at boot camp regards you as lower than dirt.

Kiwiwriter 614 pts

 Karla  sMoriarty Reading that web page about Navy basic...boy, does that take me back! The video about RDC on the van is new, though.

 

Interesting that you send your clothes back home again. While I was in the Navy, they changed that...you tied it to the bottom of your rack, as an incentive to do well. That was because recruits were mailing home their civvies, and they were getting returned to the recruit because the family members were rejecting them or had moved without notifying the recruit of their new address.

 

We were awakened at 4 a.m. That, at least, is easier. I see you don't call Company Commanders "Sir" or "Ma'am" any more. IN fact, they're not called Company Commanders..."Recruit Division Commander?" That's new.

 

The "stress cards" were nonsense...that was just a card done on which recruits could list their goals, personal and otherwise...there were a lot of rumors about them.

 

We didn't call our barracks "ships." We called them "compartments." We only had 57 guys in our company. It was winter. Not many recruits. A lot of older guys.

 

I remember the "900 companies." They still have those, I see. I remember them as the "Triple Threats." They had to do 10 weeks of training, so they could do their musical and marching work.

 

We had the "recruit petty officers," too, with their metal rank badges. I was the "Jewish religious petty officer," because we had four Jews in the company. One guy got interested in in Judaism, and asked the Rabbi about converting. I don't know how that came out. OUr "Master at Arms" was a former county jail guard. GOod guy.

 

We did not have classes on rape awareness....but my training was all-male.

 

We had no confidence course when I was there. That's new. Didn't do any line-handling, either.

 

We had to do "Service Week." I see that's gone. I worked in the gym. Didn't do much. We had no firearms training, and certainly no computer training.

 

No mentoring, either. No anti-terrorism, either. Kind of glad they got rid of "Service Week." Seemed like a waste of time...you learn how to work in a ship's galley when you get to that ship's galley.

 

The gas chamber procedure has not changed one bit, I see. But we didn't sing the song. We sang that when we marched through the tunnel between the north and south sides of the base. That takes me back.

 

Never fired a weapon in my eight years in the Navy.

 

The firefighting training was my favorite part of it...I wish I could have shown the simulator to my father-in-law, himself a Navy vet and Hoboken fire captain.

 

We did not have "Battle Stations" when I was in boot camp. We did "flying breakdowns" while marching, to keep us occupied.

 

That typical day takes me right back....nothing has really changed. Except the lectures are in Powerpoint...we just had slides.

 

 

 

 

 

MixedUpInVegas 1654 pts

 sMoriarty

 Good luck to you, young sister.  You have chosen an honorable way of life.  May you do well, learn, grow and benefit in every way!

Kiwiwriter 614 pts

sMoriarty, I'm a Navy veteran, too, and Karla's advice is exactly right. I did a lot of running and push-ups before I went to basic training, and memorized my "General Orders of A Sentry," and some other material.

 

Hint on the General Orders: Each one starts with a different veb.

 

Boot camp is a lot tougher now than when I was in, which is not something a lot of veterans say, because of the three-day "Crucible" exercise, in which your company will spend three days in a series of drills and evolutions meant to both simulate emergency situations and re-enact historic incidents in the US Navy's history. One of them is abandoning ship in the pool, which is tied to escaping from the battleship USS Oklahoma when it was capsized by Japanese torpedoes at Pearl Harbor.

 

My basic training at Great Lakes did NOT even fire pistols, nor did we carry rifles. We had them in the compartment, but they took the antique M-1s away. We still had to record in the log, "Piece Count in Compartment -- Zero Pieces."

 

Karla's right...it is basically a head and physical game. I was 28 when I did it, so it was different for me. A number of my fellow recruits objected to making their beds, saying "Hey, man, my mamma does that!" My company commanders' faces turned bright red and their vocabulary turned very colorful. The recruits did a lot of push-ups...and made their beds. I kind of goggled at the situation...didn't these guys realize that their mammas would not be on the "USS Missile Bait" with them?

 

My father's advice from his basic training of 1951 still stands...when told to do something by the company commanders, don't argue the point, no matter how ridiculous the task...just do it and get it done right away. If you argue, you will have to do a lot of push-ups, and still have to perform the task. If you don't argue and do the job, they let you alone. And he was right.

 

They will play head games with you...because it's competitive, and you compete for flags to wave at graduation, the company commanders will make that sound vitally important. I can still see them saying, "If you don't have flags, think how impressed your mommies and daddies will be when they come to see you on graduation day!" Some of the 18-year-olds were quite upset by this prospect, whereas my take was, "My parents aren't coming, they will take the flags away from us as soon as the ceremony is over, and I don't really care if we get a flag with a drawing of a yellow chicken on it."

 

Your colleagues will be from all over the country, extremely unsophisticated, and you will meet some astonishing people...I met kids from West Virginia who had never been on a plane until they flew to basic training. Another who had impregnated his girlfriend at age 13. How he evaded statutory rape charges I never learned. Another kid had never been more than four hours away from his mother in his life. Another admitted to being a member of the Klan. He could not take the situation, and threatened to kill himself at one point. He adjusted his attitudes, and survived.

 

You will be completely disconnected from home and the world. I had a pal who went through basic during the Los Angeles riots in 1992. One day, an officer came into the compartment and said that there were "disturbances" in Los Angeles, and anyone from that area could go over to the Navy Exchange and the credit-card phones, and call home to check on their families. The few LA guys went over, while the rest of the company wondered what was going on. When the LA guys came back, having checked on their families, they told their stunned shipmates that the whole bloody city was going up in flames. My father mailed me news clippings to keep me informed, including baseball box scores.

 

Everything is choreographed, and it will appear not to make any sense until you're done with it...the bewildering nature of it, particularly in the first two weeks, is deliberate. They keep screaming at you and keep you on the go to distract you from the enormity of the decision you have made, and to replace your fear or cockiness with attitudes of teamwork and unquestioning obedience.

 

By the time you're ready to graduate, your company will be working as a fairly smooth team, which could go on through the routines forever. Ironically, when that happens, they break you all up.

 

For me, the worst things were 1) the lack of sleep 2) the constant train of denigration from the company commanders. I was doing the best I could, and not arguing. It got tiresome. 3) The lack of music, beyond our cadence chants. I was in charge of the shower-cleaning detail, and we never took a hit in the shower. After my detail cleaned it, I would go in by myself, and clean the floor of dirt and hairs, then take my own shower alone, singing the whole time, just to hear familiar songs. My favorite was "Let the River Run" by Carly Simon.

 

I hope that helps.

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Regena22 15 pts

@Rosie S I agree with you, I do. I think that several black women hurt themselves by marrying or mating down just to have a dark baby. What concerns me is the assumptions that wanting black children (with a black man) means that you must marry or mate down. Maybe I am looking for clarification. (please note, I love this blog and read it almost daily, I try not to comment because I don't like being verbally attacked so be kind)

MixedUpInVegas 1654 pts

 Regena22  Rosie

 Welcome, Regina.  I promise I won't verbally attack you--I'm a harmless old lady.

 

In answer to your question, I never had the impression that marrying a Black man necessarily means one is "marrying down."  The point was, instead, that if a woman is unable to find a Black man to marry and have a family before her biological clock runs out, she should consider all marriage options available to her.  One of the platforms of BWE is that women should not have to settle for less than a fully functioning, contributing, supportive and equal life partner.  That is not to say that there are no Black men out there who fit the bill--it is only to note the obvious fact that the supply/demand ratio is not terribly favorable to upwardly mobile Black women.

 

 At specific issue in this article, though, are women who encourage other women to accept less in a marriage partner than they themselves have done, with the purpose of maintaining their perceived superior status out of reach. 

Regena22 15 pts

@MixedUpInVegas @Regena22 @Rosie That makes a lot of sense, thanks! I find myself saying that to a lot of my black female friends. Unfortunately I get the lots of pushback because I am married to a wonderful man who happens to be black women never take my advice to date a rainbeau. My husband and I have known each other for decades and have both dated several races and have both been attacked for doing so. It's crazy! I always say that love, happiness and stability should be a priority and if you cant find it in your shade then try another or just be open. :) life is too short to be unhappy.

DeepWater 2464 pts

 Regena22  Rosie   Welcome Regena22.   Good to meet you.   Since you been lurkin' you'll get to "know" our styles and stages of life development soon enough.........bwaaaaahhaaaaaaa.   Welcome to you.

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Kiwiwriter 614 pts

 Rosie S Truer words were never spoke...why marry a loser? As Franklin said, "Marry in haste, repent at leisure."

MZ Elf 2727 pts

I grew up sheltered from Blackistan until about 15. From tgat point I felt like I had a bullseye on my back every since. I feel in some ways I feared bm and the community a lot more because males of every age feel they somehow have a right to you. I had two crazy incidents happen at the VA hospital that I drive my Fer to in San Diego. In fact,, the whole trip made me so angry I couldn't believe as a grown woman, bm seem to think our skin color gives them access to me. Uggggh!! Going to jump on my pc to tell the story.

beentheredonedat 23 pts

You forgot one: The Spiritual Blackistani. This is the church mother/choir leader/usher board president who is busy working all week in her church but makes time to tear other women down on a regular basis and covers her hate up with a hearty "Praise The Lord'. Her cousin, the New Age Blackistani, is likewise pursuing a spiritual veneer with lots of Iyanla Vanzant, Oprah Lifeclass and Wayne Dyer books around but if you mention any cracks in the veneer the first sentence you'll hear is "You ain't SH !T!!!!!"

Tish 170 pts

 beentheredonedat Amen to the "Spiritual Blackistani." They are dangerous in that they will have a smile on their face all the while either trying to tear you down or control you. I recently checked a "Spiritual Blackistan" in my church and now she knows to no longer mess with me.

 
Karla 18246 pts

 beentheredonedat Ah, yes, the spiritual "cult"...

SwirlQueen 996 pts

I, for the life of me will never understand hazing and initiations.  Rape is serious and stands apart from mere horseplay and stupid pranks.  When they lead to criminal activity the authorities must be involved.  How these crimes can go unreported is beyond me but I know it happens. 

 

Now to the post..... It is excellent and I linked it on Facebook to 10 comments or shares just 5 minutes ago.  The practice is actually not new.  Just the terminology and it is very fitting and right on time.  I coined "Iron Snowflake" and posted an article on my blog when we started talking about it.  I don't care what we call her, but I want to warn impressionable bw to stay away from this type.  But we must teach them also how to identify these slicksters and pick them out a mile away for their own protection.  The Blackhomeini Ayatollahs are running the show make no mistake about it, but heir female enforcers are indeed the foot soldiers who have no problem displaying their loyalty to Blackistan.  smh

 

Here is my article if you are interested in reading it.  http://www.swirlingandmarriage.com/beware-of-iron-snowflakes/

Karla 18246 pts

 SwirlQueen Excellent article.  Thankfully, I've never run afoul of an Iron Snowflake.

 

VintageNarcissa 3151 pts

 SwirlQueen Never knew that "the Iron Snowflake" was already a coined term. Wow. 

DeepWater 2464 pts

 SwirlQueen   Love, love, love your site.  Love the article and so very true.

mdiva2002 250 pts

Excellent post and very informative. I have run into three out of the five Blackistani women examples above. Thankfully, I have supportive family, friends and followed the beat of my own drum not to fall victim to the traps. Ladies, if you run into the Blackistani women above run and do not look back less you turn into a pillar of salt.

SwirlQueen 996 pts

 mdiva2002

 I wrote another article about the POS's of our community -- Pillars of Salt. I'll try to find it.  They are an identifiable group pf women.  I'll have to fish it out.

EarthJeff 3345 pts

"In some black sororities, the “sisters” will take one of the freshmen girls in their sorority  over to a black fraternity house where she will be gang raped. School officials know this goes on, but pay off families to keep it a secret. The men are never arrested or expelled."

 

REALLY?  This is horrifying...

ASwirlGirl 3047 pts

 EarthJeffI pledged a sorority at an HBCU and never heard of, much less knew of anyone exoeriencing ANYTHING like this. As a matter of fact, pledgees were under strict orders to STAY AWAY from any of the frat houses. The pledgees had group events, yet we were very carefully supervised.  

 
dani-BBW 1787 pts

 ASwirlGirl  EarthJeff I agree. I pledged at a non-HBCU and our contact with guys was quite limited.

DU2 2203 pts

@ASwirlGirl @EarthJeff @a swirlgirl the fact you have not encountered a certain situation does not render it untrue. can you speak for every black soror, "little sister",frat brother, etc. from the inception of these greek organizations until now?