How to date, mate and relate. Mixing race, culture and creed.
A complicated and unique facet of being bi-racial is that we’re all a part of at least two different races and/or cultures yet, depending on who we’re most closest to, is who we come to identify with.
A common misconception that I often hear from (mostly) black people is that somehow having the same skin color automatically means you will enjoy a shared cultural experience with your partner. Magical thinking makes folks believe all things will fall into place via osmosis or iTunes download just because the two of you are brown. Nope. While there’s a whole continent that share our hue, the similarities with African American culture begin and end there. African and even West Indian culture is markedly different, and many of these people have certain stereotypes that if a relationship is to be forged, must be overcome.
If you read the first part of my little ‘how to’ on being a man magnet diva, you already learned a few new tricks meant to catch the eye of any red blooded male. Now that you’ve got the attention of a prospect, or several, what do you do next?
I’ve been swirling since first grade and a boy chasing harlot for about as long. Surely there’s something here for the respectable ladies of BB&W to learn from an enigma such as I.
“If white men are moving into black neighborhoods and seeing black girls they find attractive, what’s to stop them from approaching?”
Black woman, you are free to “be” just like everyone else!
Thanks to a secret BB&W benefactor, I am able to give away three copies of “Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed.” Each of the three will have a signed, personalized message from me.
Christelyn’s new book is on the threshold of release as I’m typing this. And with that news comes the necessary promotion and word spreading you expect while trying to get a product out there to consumers. There was a link to one such feature that had the predictable bit of grumbling and talking points. You know, the lie-filled scare tactics that never fail to come up when black women even think about expanding their dating options.
In any case, one particular sentiment stood out to me…
Proof that black media shuns and shies away from “too many” interracial relationship topics.
It’s become cool to feign disinterest in getting married. I can’t count how many interviews I’ve read in magazines where some Hollywood starlet claims that she doesn’t know whether or not she’ll ever get married–to her, being in love is all that matters and the whole marriage-thing isn’t on her radar at the moment.
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