Do All Men Want to Protect ‘Their’ Women from Other Men?

My daughters are mixed.  My oldest is in college and only seems interested in black young men.  As long as she is treated well with respect and kindness I don't care what their race is.  The only thing I want them to be are born-again Christians.  If they give God His due, then everything else will be OK...

Don't ya just loathe race women? They will just come to bat for any BM without even caring to judge his moral faculties. Pathetic.

I'm a Black American woman in a marriage with a white American man. We have two children and we both agree that we don't care what mate they choose as long as their mate is good to them, loves them and treats them kindly. Its not about race, or I should say its only about the propagation of the Human race.

...And as far as the people responding to this article saying who they DON'T want their offspring to bring home (trash, a race different from the father, etc.), remember that children emulate and recreate the environment in which they've grown up accustomed to, or the apple doesn't fall very far from the tree...

I feel a lot of men are like this with their daughters because it's seemingly harder to maintain ethnic or cultural tradition, or whatever, through women. Even if they are not a Junior, a son is seen as the continuation of a father's legacy. But a daughter will more than likely get married, lose her last name and her identity as a staple of a family. For men who feel a strong sense of culture may favor their daughters with someone of their own race and culture in order for that man facilitate the continuation of that culture and tradition. That may be the subconscious psychological explanation of it. I know my father mentions every once in a while that he knows he has no say in who I end up with, he would prefer for me to marry a Nigerian man. I smile and nod, but inside, I'm rolling on the floor laughing.

There is this idea that a lot of black men who take issue with black women dating interracially because they feel that it will will deplete the fully black population. This for one bloggles my mind, most obviously because most of these men date interracially themselves, but are not worried about their supposed depletion of the black population. But also because, even if she was a baby factory like the Duggar wife, a woman can only have so many children in her lifetime. However, the amount of children a man can have is exponential. One man could in theory have hundreds of women pregnant at the very same time. So if there was any gender that could deplete a race, if that were even possible it definitely would not be the women.

Yes all men want to hoard 'their' women. They even want to hoard the women they don't even want. I remember a conversation I had a few years back with a Kenyan guy about a Kenyan model working in the US who is dark skinned. He was angry that such a dark skinned black women could have a career as a super model. 'Dark is not bad but she is just TOO DARK,' he protested.

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Here she is.

The conversation moved on to her personal life and the same man was really pissed that she had a white partner. WTH???? If she is undesirable shouldn't he have been thanking the white man for taking her off the market?

Interesting. My husband won't care if we have a daughter and she marries a BM. The only criteria is that he comes from a two parent household (divorce and widowhood is acceptable, no illegitimacy), has an education beyond high school, treats her well, is not into her because of a light skin/straight-curly hair fetish, and is willing to give her all the care that my husband has given me (the choice to stay at home with the kids, a nice home in a nice neighborhood, etc.). This criteria goes for any man that would come into the life of a daughter. That is if we have one. We feel the same way about our boys. I don't care who they bring home ethnically. Just don't bring home any trash. I mean that.

Hmmm, I haven't no idea where this comes from... men who say this are close minded and insecure and not worth thinking about thier thoughts and the stupid sh*t they say :-D

But honestly... I want my family to be all mixed up, I bet all of you knew that though ;-*

Yep, also seen various non-WM married interracially but demanding spouses for their kids must be dad's ethnicity.

I cannot speak for my entire race, but as a wm with grown interracial daughters I can safely say I do not care who they marry - black, white, brown, yellow, green, male or female - as long as they love their partner and their partner loves, respects, and treats her well. Hurt one of my girls and I will open a can of whoop-ass you do NOT want all over you.

I've heard this from arab men especially. They date white, black, etc. women all of the time but will do bodily harm if their sisters date out.

My husband and I aren't fully settled on having kids one way or the either yet, but I know that he raised his sons to not discriminate in dating/marriage.

I know that my husband wouldn't be too concerned about the race of a future daughter's spouse. I think I share The Working Home Keeper & Jamila 's sentiments in that I'd probably be more worried than he would be about a daughter marrying a black man part on the basis of experience and part what I see BM in my community doing. I certainly hope that what I see changes...

Jamila I'm reading Suburban Nation this week and so far so good. I think you'll find that it depends on how the father feels about a given ethnicity or race. Ex: they'd be fine with PR or Indian son-in-law but an East Asian or White guy will send him through the roof.

It is always a sweet irony that BM that marry WM on the basis that all BW are *insert appropriate disparaging descriptor here* don't want their daughters from those union from marrying WM. It would seem that most of them have the concept that marrying a WM is so how getting back at WM and therefore by extension BW that marry WM are helping the WM destroy the black race. That is one logic that makes no sense to me.

I would concede that for jews and muslims and some other non-christian religions don't want the women of that religion marrying out because the tenets of their religion state that it is the mother that decides whether the child is to be considered as belonging to that faith. For example some branches of Judaism do not considered the children of mixed marriages (i.e. a jew and gentile) to be jewish if the mother was not born jewish. The conversion of the mother in this strict way of thinking is not considered as allowing the children of those union to be considered jewish despite the fact the family may be practicing the faith. This is the case for a good friend of mine who's dad is jewish and his mom a WM.

No husband don't care. It's me who cares.

I don't want my daughter to become a black mans light skinned fetish (It's really hard being light skinned and date a black man in the west without being a fetish). Black men prays on WM-BW children, they love ruining them. Look at Lauren London. She's ruin forever.

My two year old son (who is very white looking), is showing a preference for a lot of pretty Indian and Chinese girls in his small daycare. To that I say, COOL! I hope he marries someone as different or as similar to his mom or dad as he wants. Husband and I love cultural exchange and "mixing it up" so if my child never dated a black girl or woman, then I get to be the most special black woman in his life! LOL...!

My husband is white (as y'all know!) and we have daughter, as well as two sons. I can say with almost 100% certainty, that my husband would NOT have a problem with our daughter marrying a black man. Or a white man, an Asian man. His primary concern would be for our daughter to be with a good, quality man. A man that would be good to her and would provide for her and their future children. That's what any father would want for his daughter. That's what my father wanted for me. It didn't matter to him that my fiance (now husband) was white. He just wanted to make sure he was a good man.

Now, if you were to ask how I would feel about our daughter marrying a black man, I would be a bit more apprehensive than my husband.