Hottie of the Week: Jason Hendrix!

His dedication to his children is admirable! However, a woman should never be pitted up against someone's children and made to compete for his affection. Loving his woman and loving his children do not have to be mutually exclusive! A good woman would honor his duties as a father and also treat his children as a priority. A good woman would never make him choose between his kids and herself! But a good woman also would not like the fact of being a second class citizen in his life! His woman and his kids can both be top priority, just in different ways!

Uhm, slight problem here with the hot Italian guy: While it's totally admirable (and desirable) that he put the kids first, having the mindset that any future woman he gets with will not be a number one priority along with the kids doesn't sit well for some reason. I totally understand and respect the heck out of any man who has his children as his top priority, but to me it sounds like a contest that the woman is sure to lose (and there should be no contest). Why can't he put his girls AND his woman first, above everyone and everything else out there??? That to me is the way it should be. It can be difficult enough for a woman in this kind of relationship to step into the lives of children who are not hers to begin with, so I would think that he'd need to help her out and be supportive of her in this, if indeed a happy, loving and lasting partner is what he's looking for. Otherwise, I don't know. Just my two pennies.

The man has spelled it all out, and made it very p-l-a-i-n. Any interested ladies should L-I-S-T-E-N to what he's said. If I were 15 years younger, I'd go for him! Honesty from a man is refreshing!

Its refreshing to hear men putting their children first, in a society/world where its always the woman's responsibility.

Omission is not honesty. Don't know him as a person and hope he finds who he is looking for. It's quite a tall order though. I always would like to meet someone childless like me so that we can start a life together.

I respect any man who put their kids first and thats how it should be.

Nice. Good luck Jason. Hope you find the gal of your dreams here or wherever she may be!

He's gorgeous! Unfortunately he's slightly outside of my age range and doesn't want more kids. But he seems like a great guy and I can't see him being single for long.

Good luck, Jason!

He defintely was honest and can't fault him for that..

He is a cutie.. You find some great catches...

When you find a nice tall Dutch/German guy I'll be on him like white on rice LOL.. I know you are saying why German or Dutch I just like the blond hair blue eyed men it's just something about them that gets my attenttion. I guess opposites do attract and I do like European men.

Definitely a hottie!

Love his honesty and love the fact that his kids come first. He sounds like he has a lot to offer. Would the right woman include a woman who has kids of her own that come first for her?

"I want someone that will be in their lives for a long time. Even if we don’t work out, if my girls are attached I hope you will not just walk away."

Could he offer the same to the kids of the woman he falls for if she had them?

My read of his post he is willing to do the work of blending a family. Those girls are lucky to have a dad who loves them as much as he does.

Chris, I'm glad you put a bit of a disclaimer at the end of your post. :)

Jason does sound like a good guy and I think for the right person and in due time, he will be a great partner for that woman. That being said, I think this particular post can provide a teachable moment to those BW who might need it... it's important to know what you want, and even if you meet the nicest guy in the world, if he's not where you are in terms of your relationship desires, it's not worth it.

I've seen so many women in general who are never married (or briefly married) and want kids being encouraged to give a particular guy a chance, only to feel stuck when she falls in love with him and he's not ready for marriage, doesn't want more kids, etc... then what is she to do?

So all that being said, for a woman in the same place in life where Jason is now, go for it! But if you a woman in a different place in life, stick to your dreams and find someone in the same place. Trust me, I wish someone had said that to me a while ago... luckily it all worked out though!

(This was not at all directed to Jason, btw... but to what Chris said at the end of the post. Good luck to you Jason!)

Jason sounds like a keeper for the right woman! :-)