Take a Look and Listen: Book Review and Podcast with ‘Cocoa Fly’

I just saw this post Christelyn  . I was tired too but we both powered through it. And we both sound good thanks to the magic of digital editing. LOL

 It was a fun interview. Felt more like chatting with one of my homegirls. Thanks for taking the time to do it!  And I will NOT ask a man if he has ever dated a bw on the first date. Lesson learned! ;)

MY COPY OF SWIRLING JUST DOWNLOADED.

WHOOT HOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Nice interview... I'm really glad you said what you did about NOT asking a man on a date if he's ever dated a black woman before. There's too much fear involved in going on a simple date with a non-BM... just be a woman, let him be a man and have fun! (Or find out he is NOT the one for you and move on to the next one!)

Sleepy time is not a good time to interview the Ol' Tom Cat - my verbal censors are down - Gawd only knows what might come dribbling/gushing/oozing from my speech centers.

This was a very good interview. I hope they all go as smoothly as this one did as you promote your book.

Loved what you said about race not being the center of what happened in your house.  That is the same for Keith and I.  Sure we are both here and love to talk about what we read here however IRR, BWE and race, are just a part of our lives.

 We have a marriage that encompenses all of the day to day, year to year things that all marriages do. Getting the bills paid, home remodeling, putting in a garden, keeping an eye out on our elderly family members, traveling,seeing how the step kids are doing what have you.

Some would like to think that all my husband and I do is attempt to solve the big race relation issues of the day.  No, we don't do that.  I are too busy living and loving together.  We have solved those issue to our own satisfaction within our life together.  Each person has to do the same for themselves. You either can or you cannot.  He and I do not make this our problem.

After thirteen years together swirling is still an adventure and still fun.  I love seeing things through the prism of who Keith is as a man, as a man born in the time he was born in, where he was born and where he was raised and his life experiences.  He gets the same from me. We both find that we have more things in common than we do have that are different. Rick Banks nailed it when he said it is the shared values that make for a strong relationship and that skin color does not at all necessarily mean that those shared values will automatically be there. This has been the case in my marriage.  I find that I have more in common with my husband, a white man, than I do even with some of my siblings.

Looking forward to reading the book.  I have a feeling that it is just the right guide coming at the right time. 

When she asked about nonblack men possibly not understanding us as black women I had to wonder why we  just assume that black men do. They don't necessarily "get it" either. We might be the only group (generalization) worried being understood as a race/sex combo while everyone else just wants to be understood as an individual. That's not a crack at Cocoa Fly. Just noticing the dialogue patterns whenever black women talk about IR. 

I wish I had the chance to read this book before my MIL moment...which I'm still dealing with *sigh*

Listening now. :D 

You certainly sound more coherent than I do past bedtime. My brain starts shutting down on me, so no way could I give a good interview. XD Yay, the book's almost out! \o/