I got this letter from a man this morning, and while I realize that this man is attempting to guilt and shame me into doing this, but I’m going to allow it. Why? Because men like this, who live in a bubble, who think their ideals, drive and values mirror the entire community, need a wake up call. They need to REALLY hear it from you all, how things REALLY are. So here is his letter, and below is my response. I have invited him to observe. We shall see how this goes. Let’s all try to be respectful.
I recently happened to come across your article regarding Kanye West, Kim K, and Amber Rose… While I understand the point of the article, I will say that I find most reports of black men that over-value white women and de-value black women to be one sided and unbalanced. In this regard, very few people take the time to write an article highlighting the successful black men who place high a value on black women and love and respect them.
For example, you mentioned the “unicorn” in your article. Well, I am a graduate of Johns Hopkins School of Medicine with two doctorates (an MD and a PhD) and I am happily married to a beautiful black woman with two beautiful children. Now before you think that this email is self serving, I can tell you about another African American gentleman, who also graduated from Johns Hopkins with an MD and a PhD, who is a neurosurgeon at Johns Hopkins, married to a beautiful African American woman with one son. And I could give you two more highly accomplished gentlemen with dual doctorates who fit the some mold.
But even now, as you read this, I highly doubt that you will amend your article or write a follow up article to highlight these individuals, and that’s a shame. It’s a shame because girls and women of color need to know that there are black men out there, who will value them, and be faithful to them, and love them. It’s an important message, one that I think about often when I see how misogynistic our young black men have become, and how little they value our women.
So, now that I have provided you four examples of the “unicorn”, all happily married to women of color, what do you , with your platform, plan to do with that information?
Have a wonderful day!
Robert [withheld] M.D.,Ph.D.
Yes, Robert. We know there are good black men out there. But…not enough.
Thanks for your note, Robert.