Black Women's Empowerment

It Takes Kenya Moore for “Clutch” and “Madame Noire” to Ask What We’ve Known for Years!!

The internet is all abuzz AGAIN, because reality newsmaker, Kenya Moore stated the obvious. There are simply not enough “good black men” for black women to choose from. Here are her exact words, as spoken in an interview with Hello Beautiful:

For Black women, we just have to be open because there’s not a lot of eligible bachelors, that are Black, for us to choose from anymore. If you take away the ones that are gay, in jail, this is a real issue. Statistics show why we don’t have the choices. You take the ones that are gay, in jail, don’t have a job, the ones that are already married and the ones that are dating and marrying outside our race, what do you have left? You don’t have much to choose from. The nicest thing is that you have options.

Might she have seen this video I recently did? Hmmm….coincidence? Maybe not…

Clutch and Madame Noire were quick to want to pilfer some clicks off the discussion, asking a question we’ve know the answer to for years–“Are there not enough black men to go around?” The answer is, if you want someone who is educated, gainfully employed, no problems with the law, no litters of out-of-wedlock children running around–the answer is a resounding NO. There are NOT enough. Even if every eligible black man who met that criteria married a black woman with equal criteria, there would NOT be enough. Never mind that high-value black men are either delaying marriage until they’re as old as Methuselah or marrying non-black women in droves. There is a *small* percentage of black men who fit this bill who are marrying black women, and my brother is one of them. But even he knows there’s not enough!!


My brother Byron and his wife, Mary


He loves black women enough to tell them the truth, and he says that black women should NOT limit themselves! Love you, bro!!

It is not “hating” on black men to admit this truth. This isn’t about stroking someone’s ego or hurt feelings. This is about black women doing what is best for them. When the outnumbered vie for the rare, the rare use their position to their benefit, not yours. With choices comes power. With power, comes respect. And if she wants marriage with a compatible mate, she’d better start looking at Gerald, Tony Woo, Wyatt, and Jose. She also should pick up Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed. 

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