Question of the Week

Question of the Week: How Do I Give the Green Light?

I’m off to the airport to pick up Maxi-Me from her trip to Atlants to visit my bro and his wife, so I’ll have to give my two pennies on this later. In the meantime, I leave this child in your more-than-capa Hello, Christelyn! I’ve been reading your site for a while and I was wondering if you could give me some advice? I’m 22 years old, just graduated from college and was raised in an uber-Christian conservative household, so I’m naturally shy around boys! Last night, I had an amazing date with a great guy! We were supposed to go kayaking, but – because of the weather – we played frisbee on the beach instead and went back to his place for a couple of drinks and a movie. Before he took me home, he kissed me and said, “Wow. I’ve been been trying to get an opportunity all night, but you’re really hard to read.” And then he sort of gestured as to how my body language was a bit standoffish. I was so shocked! I didn’t realize that my body language was so guarded! I really like him, but what am I supposed to do? It was only our second date and we were at his place – I didn’t want him to think I was ready to get physical! (Where I live, girls take the “hook-up culture” to ANOTHER level). So, my question is: how do I give the green light without coming off as too easy? Is it okay to be reserved at first? – blackgirlinthecity

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