Gender Conflict

Being Soft is Pretty Sweet :)

WARNING!!! This post is not meant for happily masculine women, happily androgynous women, or feminists, so for all of our sake please skip this post. This post is ONLY meant for women who are interested in becoming more old fashioned/classically/traditionally feminine :). Please focus your comments on the topics presented in this post and keep it classy and respectable ladies.


Kerry Washington

Kerry Washington

I don’t mind being soft, I actually like it. You have to be gentle with something soft. If you are soft then you don’t have to put up with things other people have to. You can protect yourself and you don’t need anyone’s permission to do so. People don’t expect you to tolerate harshness, you are excused. Your comfort and protection is of the utmost importance.

What I don’t understand is how some women complain about being treated like unfeeling pack mules and yet continue to act like unfeeling pack mules. Why don’t you just stop it? If everyone thinks you are strong, you can take everything, and you actually like drama and arguing…why do you play into those assumptions? Why do you complain over and over about mammys and mules and then proudly conform to those very stereotypes? Putting up with disrespect doesn’t mean you are strong, it just means you have no problem with being treated badly and that’s sad. Get your mind out of Blackistan! Why don’t you tell people you need help, you can’t handle everything, and you don’t want to be on the defensive all the time? Why don’t you just start acting softer? If you want something to change then you have to change something!

Well some women will say that acting softer will make them weak and vulnerable and people will take advantage of them. Understand I Softnesssaid soft–not stupid. Being soft means you actually raise your standards and require better treatment from others. You don’t even give anyone the chance to harm you. You can be soft and pleasant and still say no, in fact, you don’t have to argue or fight at all because you don’t need to expose your precious mind to negativity. You do not have to tolerate being treated like a mule for one second because you are no mule! You are a lady and must always be treated as such.

Let others accept poor treatment because they somehow convinced themselves this proves they are “mature” and “real women”. If they feel proud about how much abuse they can take, let them. In the meantime, enjoy the freedom, peacefulness, joy, and serenity of being soft and cherished 🙂


Esperanza Spalding


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