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#T3Q ~ The 3 Questions

September 23, 2015 | Bill Drew (Aabaakawad) |

 

 


 

 

 Are the women and children safe?

 

 


 

 

 Who is the danger?

 

 


 

 

 What are the men doing about it?

 

 


 

 

 

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 #T3Q

 

 

 


 

 

 

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Filed Under: Black Women's Empowerment, Thriving Tagged With: Black children, black men and black women, child abuse, critical thinking, dangerous men, DBR, defense of black women, health, leaving, protection, rape culture, safety, self preservation, sexual abuse, shaming, sister soldiers, T3Q, women with children

Comments

  1. Brenda55 says

    September 23, 2015 at 9:44 pm

    Bill this has to be the most cryptic post ever published on BB&W.

  2. ole'skool says

    September 24, 2015 at 11:42 am

    Please help me understand T3Q; is this a reference to the BC or all communities at large?

  3. Aabaakawad says

    September 24, 2015 at 12:15 pm

    I am not going to lead you. Because it becomes clear if you put in the effort.

    Where would YOU ask such questions and what would be the answers?

    No, I’m not being lazy. Pick a few contexts where these questions could be asked, and compare how they would be answered differently. Go from there. Yeah, I could do it for you, then it would just be something Bill said. This way, you own it.

  4. Aabaakawad says

    September 24, 2015 at 12:18 pm

    Brenda55
    Yep.

  5. Aabaakawad says

    September 24, 2015 at 12:19 pm

    SirLoinDeBeef
    You are on the right track[s]. Pick 2 or 3 contexts and compare them.

  6. Aabaakawad says

    September 24, 2015 at 12:21 pm

    Sameriah 99
    There will be more and it will come out in the comments as people discuss these three questions.

  7. Aabaakawad says

    September 24, 2015 at 12:22 pm

    ole’skool
    Yes.

  8. MsEva says

    September 24, 2015 at 12:27 pm

    This looks like how to gauge if a town or neighborhood is okay to move in.  Are the women and children safe? (the most vulnerable people in the community/town)  Who is the danger and what are the men doing about it?  If you go to an area/town where the women and children aren’t safe, that isn’t a good area or town to live in.

  9. Aabaakawad says

    September 24, 2015 at 12:29 pm

    Also, I wish to demonstrate how a particular kind of critical analysis will develop NATURALLY, simply from discussing these particular questions.

  10. Aabaakawad says

    September 24, 2015 at 12:30 pm

    MsEva
    Moving, but also staying. Will things get better, or will they get worse.

  11. Brenda55 says

    September 24, 2015 at 12:41 pm

    OK.  You are a young woman about to graduate from College or have a choice of where to take a job.  That would open up the question of where do you live.

    Those three questions would be key in choosing which community you choose to live in.

  12. giantrafflesia says

    September 24, 2015 at 1:40 pm

    Good damn questions. Ponders…..

  13. Aabaakawad says

    September 24, 2015 at 3:08 pm

    giantrafflesia
    Whenever I see your name I see: gi…raff.e…

  14. Aabaakawad says

    September 24, 2015 at 4:04 pm

    This is being discussed well in the comments of a post on my FB timeline.

  15. Chicago773 says

    September 24, 2015 at 7:13 pm

    Not in chicago we arent. My friend’s son was murdered last weekend while walking to the playground.
    I thank God everyday that I don’t live in the hood. But I’ve noticed crime is soiling into the fancy areas of the city.
    Only people here doing anything about it is black women.

  16. Cassie12345 says

    September 24, 2015 at 8:00 pm

    I get it. But this is complex. You can be physically safe but precarious mentally and ecologically.  I think most Americans qualify as such. Then you have pockets of the BC that are unsafe in all aspects.

  17. MadamCJCPA says

    September 24, 2015 at 10:31 pm

    Chicago773 The 14 year old that begged his mom to let him go out because his “friends” made fun of him that she never let him out? I read about that Mon. morning and my hubby and I both said she should have stuck to her instincts (they are seldom ever wrong).

  18. MadamCJCPA says

    September 24, 2015 at 11:52 pm

    #1 NO!
    #2  Everyone
    #3  Fleeing the country to the EU instead of fighting back.

    U.S. Edition:
    #1. NO!
    #2. The 99%
    #3. Defunding PP, preparing to levy a $600 million property tax on those of us that live here in Cook County, arresting 14 year old kids with a homemade clock and murdering 14 year old kids that walking down the street minding their own business, murdering their ex-gf in church in front the ENTIRE congregation while she is holding his four-year old child, etc. 

    My Edition:
    #1. YES! (Mostly)
    #2. No one (yet)
    #3  Celebrating our wedding anniversary (9/24/15)

  19. Daisy_inthe_Field says

    September 25, 2015 at 3:03 am

    1.  Women and  children are not safe anywhere. Pockets of deliberate attempts at protection do exist, obviously. These are of course met with castigation, denigration or other forms of undermining.

    2. Political correctness and the refusal to accept protection or give it, depending on one’s gender or abilities. One’s politics/traditions/religion or the lack thereof, essentially your worldview, have everything to do with the state of women and children the world over. The answer to the WHY  women and children must be the objects of protection by men is everything. What is a woman? Who is she in relation to men and the world? Why must she do things this way? Says who? and so on and so on.
     

    3. Some (i.m.h.o.most) men withdraw when their efforts at protecting women and children are snubbed. Whether economically, physically or by being a decent fella to all women in your vicinity. Other men choose to create new ‘movements’ which seek to ‘recapture’ and emphasise gender roles. We have become enemies of each other as men and women and suspicion is the dominant energy in all our interactions. Case in point, the ‘BW have always been…thread”. The only unsuspicious people are in happy  relationships while the other camp is convinced of some disingenuous or shady motive. Love is really healing it seems. The un-loved or unattached feel unwanted hence unprotected and the first instinct is to question the evidence of desire because it has remained out of reach. The one who desires then withdraws (as
    Stan and some of the men did in calling this out) and we become disgusted and even less trusting of one another. I must admit, I too had my suspicions because all I am aware of are
    beautiful, interesting girls and women all around me and for a gentleman
    to question the existence of what is aplenty triggered a strange
    emotion. But, those were not his intentions.So all this effort was a failed give and take. Repeat cycle. Put that out onto a large scale economically, politically, socially,religiously etc and you have today’s state of affairs. And the answer is there, but ne one can give me what I refuse to receive nor can I receive what is not given.

  20. AmerikanFlicka says

    September 25, 2015 at 5:31 am

    Just this month in my city (Cleveland) two little kids (a 3 year old and a 5 year old) were murdered by being in the cross fires of gang activity. A 10-year-old and a 14–year-old have also been shot . This is all in just September alone.
    The “black lives” matter movement has did a lot of protesting about the police but now they are not doing much. Some people, mostly black women are now begging for more of a police presence due to the uptick in violence especially with so many kids being caught up in it. The city has agreed to pay for more overtime for police and no one is complaining.

  21. Cassie12345 says

    September 25, 2015 at 8:24 pm

    Daisy_inthe_Field  “The answer to the WHY  women and children must be the objects of protection by men is everything.” 

    Yes!

    “Some (i.m.h.o.most) men withdraw when their efforts at protecting women and children are snubbed…”

    Also, maybe they withdraw protection (or are snubbed) because it is no longer needed. The best thing men can do do to protect women is to stop fighting each other.

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