Video: “Get the Guy” Expert, Matthew Hussey Explains Why [some] Men Lose Interest as Soon as You Show Yours

So, how can I get THIS guy? Lol, kid, I kid. :)

Another thing to consider when a guy asked you out at the last minute is this; the woman/women he really wanted to go out declined his invite because they may have already had plans. He still wants to go out so he calls the back burner girl at the last minute.He may have a good time with her but she was not his 1st, 2nd or even 3rd choice. So when one of the women in his top 3 accepts his date the back burner girl may never hear from him again. This is also why a man may not call after a really nice and fun date. I learn this from the book The Rules. On a lighter note if a guy calls you at the last minute for a date, and you accept just go out to have fun, but don't expect anything serious to come out of it.

I agree with him about faking vs being real. It'll never work if you don't really believe you deserve better. Women are taught from birth to seek men's approval. It's very confusing to become an adult and all of a sudden realize that's not the way to go. May take years of "deprogramming".

P.S. He's cute :)

risk risks risks whats with RISKS everything is a risk these days

Hey! I've been lurking for quite a while now, but when I saw "the Hussey" (as those in my small circle lovingly refer to him as); I knew I had to comment.

I'm from London aka the LDN, and it was there (in the museum of LDN no less) that Me, my sister and 2 of her friends went to one of his seminars. And boooy do I recommend that anyone thinking that even half of what he says rings true- goes to a seminar! Sweetness chats sense whilst also being easy on the eye (which helps)!

We went as a surprise for my sister's friend V to cheer her up as her husband was refusing to sign their divorce papers even though he's living with his pregnant girlfriend... Anywaay... We got some tickets and told V it was a girly surprise- she thought we were going to make cupcakes! When we got into the waiting room we shouted surprise and then silently prayed that she'd stay (which she did with a 'you brits are sooo crazy kinda smile'- she's French Caribbean). We had to wait a little while for the guy, which gave us enough time to look around the room and see who else would do this; and bruv is right.

There was literally EVERY type of woman in that room! Women my mother's age, my grandmother's age, my age and younger than me (I'm 27). I was most shocked by the fact that we weren't the only black women there either. It was the first time I have ever been in such a positive feminine space (those uni feminist gatherings where everyone wants to take a picture with the 'other' in the room- not so positive)! And when the Hussey popped up with his easy smile and warm charismatic self- the experience got even better. He has some special tips and really encourages you to try and know yourself and take risks! As a result I have never felt sexier or had so much fun! I even spent New Years with a very beautiful and kind French man....

I'm even booked on his next weekend in March (but that's mostly cos his assistant is hoooottt!!) So I say, LISTEN TO THE HUSSEY!! Man chats sense.

Sounds like men should be with other men. lol. I don't get em!

WAw! What great advice! Is he a christian:) I want him to be one, very gorgeous, handsome and what a wonderful smile!!

Women will listen to this and still make the same mistakes ...

On another note he could pass for Colin Farrell in this video:)

British men do have lovely accents. He's lovely and and he gives good advice.

Holy crap! This is deep...

Ummmm...tell him to call me lol ***-518-****

Wow...I really wish I knew about this guy a long time ago, maybe then I could've had a lot more dates, even a boyfriend (or 2). I've always wondered why the guys I was interested in always put me in the friend zone; and I hate to admit this but I'm guilty of always trying to invest to much time to soon. I thought that's what you were supposed to do to get to know a person..."little did I know..." In fact I had to end a friendship because I became too emotionally invested too soon; because he had already made up in his mind that I was "just friends" material and not a girlfriend. It hurts...but after watching this video I learned a little something that I can use in the future. I'll be sure to check out his page on youtube.

WoW @_@

This really hit home . Giving people too much of my time too fast has always been my downfall. I never really saw it this way , I just loving getting to know new people and I love a good conversation . Christelyn your blog has helped me mature quite a bit since i have joined , my choice in men and how i view myself has changed for the better .

Me like him. Cute....and some good words of wisdom which I always knew but which was good to hear from a man.

lolz at "Max Headroom" moments ...as long as there aren't any Blipverts, it's all good. haha

he's right about the problem of women over-investing...

....having a life & getting out there and taking risks. nice.

It’s good to hear a man’s perspective every now and then but, few can look beyond themselves to understand the woman’s experience (Greg Behrendt and Dr. John Gray are the only ones I know who do this well). This is the reason why I’m very selective of the men I take advice from. He lost me at the 8:00 mark.

You don’t have to sit at home watching X-Factor, instead you could use that time to be out and about meeting someone that will respect your time and won’t call you for last minute dates. That’s the definition of having a real life- and I think he’s right about that. I also like his idea about investing in the relationship in stages!

Sometimes men continue to indulge in poor behavior (i.e. calling last minute, texting, etc.) because the women TheY interact with continue to indulge it. Not accepting last minute dates isn’t just about maintaining your mystery and having a life. It’s also about respect and consideration. It’s not about faking it but knowing how you want to be treated.

P.S.

Most men won’t know or realize when The Rules are being done. Not returning a phone call or not accepting a date isn’t automatically Rules, there’s a whole lot more to it and it’s not a game.

You sure didn't lie when you said he was eye candy.

This might be the most attractive Brit I’ve ever seen. How on earth do you find these men Chris???

Interesting comments about seeking validation after falling for someone and how that can alter a guy’s perception, vs making sure a guy earns every step of emotional investment a woman makes.

You so have to interview him when he gets to LA. The key words I got from this are "Risk" and "Rejection". Women don't want to hear it but there it is. He should put that on a T-shirt. What a conversation starter that would be.