Should we normalize obesity?...

Written by Penelope Farthing I’ve got a radical suggestion that might make it a little easier to exist as a black woman of a certain size.   Normalize obesity!   Hear me out.   Many black women are overweight, and a dangerous amount are obese. The English language has developed slang and new definitions of…

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Black-owned business: Sweet Tella’s guilt-free treats...

Today, we’re doing a slightly different interview. Chauntel reached out to connect with us, as a young black woman starting her own business. We hav...

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Is Bob Hearts Abishola #cancelled?...

Written by Penelope Farthing In today’s episode of outrage, Bob Hearts Abishola, a freshman comedy new to CBS, has been slapped with a Change.org pe...

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Netrea and Gary: Loving Life Now, Part 2...

Netrea and Gary recently responded to a request I made on social media, for couples to share their stories. We had a great conversation. I hope you en...

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Netrea and Gary: College Sweethearts, Part 1...

Netrea and Gary recently responded to a request I made on social media, for couples to share their stories. We had a great conversation. I hope you en...

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Self-Defense Tips for Black Women...

It’s clear that as a collective, black women have no first line of defense. In fact, some people even delight in our suffering, especially if it is ...

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Are you offended?...

An unfortunate theme I see in level-up spaces is the almost inevitable departure from the group/subscriber base when someone says something that rubs ...

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Would you opt in to single motherhood?...

Written by Penelope Farthing This blog originated “No Wedding No Womb”, and we are advocates of character over color and choosing the best man for...

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I Watched the Mixed-ish Pilot, and I Have Mixed Feelings (**...

Written by Saran Lawson Mixed-ish is the second spin-off of Black-ish; Grown-ish being the successful second spin-off. The show follows Bow (Rainbow J...

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Hair Hoaxes and Lopping Off Locs...

Written by Penelope Farthing It seems every other week a topic about black women’s hair is trending.   Last month, it was H&M, after having...

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Who Is Lizzo?...

Written by Saran Lawson When I think of Lizzo, I’m actually transported back to a time before I knew of her existence. A past space where Missy Elli...

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Looking Like Outside: Hair Acceptance, Weaves, and H&M...

We are back again with another hair conversation. Some time ago, Penny wrote a post on the blog, outlining conversations that black women were not nec...

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Lessons from a Legend: Diahann Carroll...

Icon, pioneer, legendary actress and Pink Pill muse Diahann Carroll passed away today at the age of 84, and the world simply will not be the same with...

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Could You Give Up Your Citizenship?...

Written by Saran Lawson If you haven’t figured it out so far, I kind of like 90 Day Fiance. Saying that I ‘kind of like’ is admittedly an unders...

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Video: Should You Dump Your Ghetto Friends When They Embarra...

When you level up, some people simply just must be left behind. Let’s Discuss!...

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It’s October 3rd. Get In! We’re Going Over Mean Girl...

I am not sure if this will become a series, but I am really loving the opportunity to talk about my favourite movies or TV shows, and the lessons we c...

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The Duke of Sussex: Prince of the Four Ps...

Written by Penelope Farthing Prince Harry made the news this week because he and his wife Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, are suing the UK press for their ...

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Bryan and Chacha: A Custom Life Path Together, Part 2...

I met Bryan and Chacha through Instagram, as I like to follow accounts where people show off their taste in fashion. I later found out that they would...

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Bryan and Chacha: Blazing their own path, Part 1...

Today’s couple is Bryan and Chacha. I have really enjoyed talking to them about their dating and marriage journey. There are so many tidbits to gain...

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Don’t be like Valencia Love...

Written by Penelope Farthing Back in February, I wrote about Valencia Love, the restaurateur and child-care service provider who coughed up R. Kelly...

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Cheyenne met her match with Ted, Part 2...

Today, we’ll be speaking with Ted and Cheyenne, from Georgia. Many thanks to Khadijah for connecting us.  Ted decided to join us for part of the in...

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Cheyenne and Ted: He Loved Her Whimsy, Part 1...

Today, we’ll be speaking with Ted and Cheyenne, from Georgia. Many thanks to Khadijah for connecting us.  Ted decided to join us for part of the in...

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Lessons from Friends: When Your Love Life’s DOA...

On September 22, the world celebrated the 25th anniversary of Friends. I recently hopped off the late-bus and binge-watched the show. I often wonder w...

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Case Study: Naomi Campbell...

Written by Penelope Farthing This blog marks what will be the first of many case studies, where we will discuss and explore the attitudes, behaviors, ...

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Black Women, H&M, and Hair...

Written by Penelope Farthing Nothing gets black women more riled up than the conversation of hair. Hair has the super power to get under the skin of b...

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Tips for Surviving Hobosexual Season...

Written by Penelope Farthing As if dating wasn’t hard enough, between vetting partners to make sure they aren’t a narcissistic sociopath, or broke...

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How to Shoot Your Shot with A’leia and  David –...

I met A’leia and David through a mutual Facebook group, and became a fan of their YouTube channel. I’ve included the link below. (Be sure to watch...

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From LA with Love: A’leia and David – Part 1...

I met A’leia and David through a mutual Facebook group, and became a fan of their YouTube channel. The link has been included below. (Be sure to wat...

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Video: How to Handle Difficult Questions About Your Past...

It can be difficult to know what to say when you feel intimidated by others because you have a complicated past. This video gives advice about how to ...

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Five Reasons Black Women Should Take Up Longboarding...

Way back in my college years, I wanted to get around campus without having to walk everywhere. So, I went to my local beach supplies shop and bought a...

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