What Lurks Beneath: Why More Women are Choosing Infidelity...

Written by Saran Lawson There is little to no argument that women have changed in the last several decades. We have become more health conscious and we are minding our mental health. We are dominating spaces and titles that men have once held. We are not only showing men we are capable of outperforming them…

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Dress Codes, Faux Outrage, and the Black Woman’s Image Pro...

Written by Penelope Farthing Growing up, my mom always told me the only event you wear pajamas to was your bed. She imparted that the only reason PJs ...

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Black Women Out Here Fighting to Wear Bonnets and Nightgowns...

The internet is once again abuzz with the latest outrage that a (black female) principal in Houston has enacted a dress code…for parents. Appare...

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Submit your Dear Penny Questions!...

Hello Beyond Black and White Readers! Do you have a question about dating, mating, and relating with an interracial partner? Perhaps you want very spe...

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The Easter Bunny: Defender of Black Women...

Written by Penelope Farthing Another day, another black woman being abused with black men looking on in impotence. From the audio in the clip above, v...

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Common Anti-Swirling Scare Tactics and Potential Responses...

Written by Penelope Farthing Now more than ever, the relationship choices made by black women are pretty much a political statement. But there is no r...

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The Yaaaas! Life: Making Sacrifices To Get What You Really W...

Years ago, I had a personal trainer who said something in a casual conversation that has stuck with me for well over a decade now. “Excuses are like...

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Ancestry.com Ad and the Curious Case of Faux Outrage...

Written by Penelope Farthing The controversial Ancestry.com ad featuring a black woman and white man in love in the time of slavery days has been remo...

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Ancestry.com commercial: I Have Mixed Feelings and Here̵...

Written by Saran Lawson I love love guys. I make it no secret on my Instagram page or my blog. I love it when people can come together despite socioec...

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Ancestry.com Risks it All with Slave-Era IR Romance Commerci...

So…a birdie showed me this… While I’m not sure who this couple is (I Googled her; nada). But the idea of investigating whether these...

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“If you’re so happy swirling, why do you write a...

Written by Penelope Farthing I had the honor of having one of my blogs reposted on Lipstick Alley, a gossip site that largely caters to black women. I...

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“Italian Stallion” Frank Tufano Joins Me on YouT...

As a content creator with my own share of drama, I’m always fascinated by what other people sip tea and pop the popcorn on. Boy, was I surprised...

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What Are We Really Hungry For?...

For years, I was able to maintain my weight with minimal exercise and a balanced diet. Then my late 30s set in and it became a lot harder. Not only th...

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Video: About the Guardian Article on Colorism…...

The Guardian is doing a series on colorism, and I can say is…IT’S ABOUT TIME! In this video, I address this article in particular....

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Secret Rule to Meet Men...

Written by Saran Lawson It’s crowded in the Mexican Restaurant the day we decided to patronize. This place is standing room only. Of course, the...

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Black women still support R. Kelly, and water is wet....

Written by Penelope Farthing News recently broke that the disgraced R. Kelly performed a 28 second long set for $100. I don’t know or care if it was...

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Popular YouTuber Launches Magazine Catering to Dark-Skinned ...

If you have ever been the little black girl who looked in vain in magazines for your reflection or ever been told by word and deed that “dark gi...

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What About Your Friends: Don’t Cut Them Off Yet!...

Written By Saran Lawson If we don’t have our backs who will. In the name of looking out for each other let’s talk about cutting off friend...

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Tiffany Haddish and the Subtle Art of Knowing When to STFU...

Written by Penelope Farthing Comedienne Tiffany Haddish recently let it be known that she once got so drunk that she had a whoopsie poopsie on herself...

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Is money worth your dignity? Kevin and Eniko Hart...

Written by Penelope Farthing Terrible comedian and abnormally tall Oompa-Loompa Kevin Hart made headlines again this week, promoting his latest projec...

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Five-Star Gaslamp Experience at the U.S. Grant...

Southern California residents are super spoiled. We literally can surf, ski and chase a tumbleweed all in the same day. My favorite is the beaches of ...

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Hamster Wheel Friend™: Don’t Let Them Run You Crazy Too...

I don’t know how many of you remember the episode of SATC (Sex and the City) in season 2 after Carrie had broken up with Big the 2nd time. The episo...

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Man, those swirlers sure must be miserable!...

Written by Penelope Farthing The narrative commonly believed is that because I didn’t marry a black man and still write about black women’s relati...

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Dear Black Women: Never Accept Struggle Dates!...

Written by Penelope Farthing In this age of social media, there is no shortage of material to write about. Since I frequently write about the unique e...

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Wendy Williams: A Case Study...

Written by Penelope Farthing I haven’t been following this Wendy Williams drama too closely. To be honest, I am not really a fan of hers as she come...

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The OLDER Woman’s Advantage in Interracial Dating...

When other women are feeling “washed up,” black women are just getting started–especially if they know how to play the interracial d...

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Video: How to Catch a Whale 🐳 at Work...

Did You Know I Caught a Once Caught a WHALE? (I threw him back though.) Let’s face it. The average person spends a lot of time at work. With all...

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Video: The Importance of Making (and Keeping) a Variety of F...

I met Anna Bey on a lark a year ago when I stumbled upon her blog, the JetSetBabe. I was struck by her beauty, intelligence, and poise. I was intrigue...

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If you’re a black woman against swirling, you’re...

Written by Penelope Farthing Here’s an unpopular opinion for you: in 2019, if you’re a black woman and against swirling, you are stupid. Okay, stu...

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“At least I have a man!” is not a clapback, sis...

Written by Penelope Farthing Imagine with me, if you will. You are single, happy, and doing your thing. You might be in school, working on your degree...

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