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New Music POSITIVE Hip Hop from Arrested Developme...

Some of you know that I’m friends with Speech Thomas, head of the legendary and iconic Arrested Development. He was a strong supporter of our No...
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Big Mistake: When Slavery Makes Your Romanticize &...

I recently had a radio interview with a well-know African American host. While I was invited to talk about swirling, it seems that it’s almost i...
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Black Women Who Seek To Eliminate Themselves ̶...

I feel a mixture of compassion and frustration with black women who are determined to degrade themselves in the pursuit of seeking validation from po...
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YES! Lupita N’Yongo Is People’s Most B...

How’s THIS for “fetishizing”… Visit NBCNews.com for breaking news, world news, and news about the economy Praise heavens and a...
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Founder of “For Brown Girls,” and Advo...

Today I’ve been whining about breaking the screen on my laptop computer and complaining about a radio show that went horribly, terribly wrong, a...
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A Letter from a Teenager Who Found BB&W

When I get notes like this, I swear, everything makes sense. So glad more girls and women are coming out of the shadows and telling their truth. And a...
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Recognize Yourself? Five Signs You Are An Angry Bl...

By Elaine Flowers, BB&W guest writer We could use this time to go over all of the good reasons why black women should be angry, but I have always ...
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Femininity Series, Part One: “What Does It M...

The topic of femininity is so polarizing. On one end, you have women who feel like even the discussion of femininity is a threat to feminism, and wome...
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Tired of Feeling Like the Dude? BB&W Fan and ...

Let’s face it: gender neutrality is confusing. So let’s just celebrate being girls, shall we? Long-time BB&W fan, ‘Nicole Abunda...
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Judge Not An Ally By Their Skin Color or Whom They...

OMG…wow…super-duper congratulations to Lupita!! As Lupita Nyong’o tearfully accepts the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress an...
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Must Read: Endless Opportunities Abroad For Women ...

There are times when we look at the world and the outlook seems quite bleak and then there are times when we look at the world and it seems unfair, an...
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Why Is Everyone Mad At A “Non-Working”...

I find that there are few things that piss off black people more than a stay at home black mother. Not stay at home mother, but stay at home BLACK mot...
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Stop Telling Women to Smile comes to Oakland!

  I am very proud to share that the Stop Telling Women to Smile campaign that I backed continues to roll along. Tatyana Fazlalizadeh, the artist...
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Searching for a Matchmaker: Back to a Familiar Pla...

If you had access to ten men who had been vetted for good character and were already attracted to you, would you meet them? What if all of them were b...
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