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Well Damn! Black Woman Writes Book Advising Sisters to Marry Jewish Men.

I’m seeing a lot of dating and advice books from black women who are interracially married, and I must say I’m glad to see it. Folks can get on their high horses if they want to, but the truth of the matter is, black women have been given HORRIBLE dating advice for decades, which has contributed to our sorry social lives. So please, no “special snowflakes” coming in to brag about how they have absolutely no trouble at all snagging Brad Pitt’s doppelgänger just by “being themselves.” That might be nice for you, but I’d venture to say that the majority of black women have not a clue how to date effectively to land the man that they deserve and deserves them. And while I haven’t reviewed the following book, I’ll put it forth because I want black women to finally, FINALLY wake up and realize they have more options than they realize.

The latest book is unapologetically called, “Why Every Black Woman Should Marry A Jewish Man.”

Now, I get that the titles of some of these new books put people off, and I think the authors could be a bit more creative in that department. But from a Google search standpoint, it’s effective in pairing the people who want to learn about interracial dating but are clueless on how to start.

I think that what it boils down to is that women (myself included) who have found good mates with certain types of men that remain elusive to many black women see how lonely our friends and family are and want to lend insight. We want you to be happy. We want you to be fulfilled. We don’t want you waiting and waiting and waiting for that black unicorn with silver sparkles that ‘da lawd’ will deliver to your door via Federal Express. Of course other black blogs are having a field day twisting themselves into pretzels to mammy for the cause of “the precious,” but those voices will soon be quieted as more and more black women get the memo and get out of Dodge City/Blackistan. Of course not every black man is a “scumbag” Veronica, but let’s not be naive.

From the press release:


Dr. Nazaree Hines-Starr PharmD, has just released her memoir, titled “Why Every Black Woman Should Marry A Jewish Man,” stating that her book is “for all women looking for the perfect Alpha male.”

Hines-Starr’s, um, black and white take on dating and marriage professes that where many African-American men “and other non-Jewish men” fall short in the dating and romance department, and how Jewish men are a cut above, in her opinion.

After dating solely within her own race and religion throughout college, graduate school and the whole of her twenties, Nazaree experienced an accumulation of what she refers to in her book as her “Scumbag Files.” Feeling disappointed in black men and still searching for Mr. Right, Nazaree decided to cast a wider net. She joined the interracial dating website, AfroRomance.com, where she met Michael, a professional, never-married Jewish man who was two years her junior.

In “Why Every Black Woman Should Marry A Jewish Man,” Nazaree Hines-Starr chronicles her intimate, tumultuous and eye opening journey that led to finding her “Jewish Prince Charming,” with a tongue-in-cheek chapter in her book titled, “Why It’s Time To Take A Dip In The Snow.”

Some of Nazaree’s theories break down to cold hard statistics. “According to the U.S. Census Bureau, there were 1.8 million more black women than black men in 2000, and that number has not improved since then. That means that if every black man in America married a black woman today, many women hoping to marry a black man would not make it down the aisle.”

Why Jewish Men?

Using tidy bullet points to highlight the merits of Jewish men, Nazaree states: “Jewish Men Open Wide Instead of Down Low; Jewish Men Are NOT Looking For Someone To Take Care Of Them; Jewish Men Attend And Graduate From College; Jewish Men At Least Attempt To Marry Before Making Babies; Jewish Men Are Great With Financial Planning And Stability; Jewish Males Don’t Take Everything As A Challenge To Their Masculinity.”

Nazaree’s dating advice in a nutshell: “If he doesn’t call when he said he would call, just assume he’s a liar. Don’t waste your time trying to figure out what’s going on; just move on and then go find a Jewish guy to date.”

“The Jewish way of dating,” according to Nazaree Hines-Starr, “explores the phenomenon of falling in love, except with some common sense.”

Nazaree’s book concludes that Jewish men “receive extensive training in manhood” and “are often raised with traditional gender roles where the men seek to take care of the women.”

“Why Every Black Woman Should Marry A Jewish Man” by Nazaree Hines-Starr is available in paperback on Amazon.com and for Kindle tablets, and at barnesandnoble.com.

About Nazaree Hines-Starr
Dr. Nazaree Hines-Starr PharmD, is a full time pharmacist and author living in Annapolis, Maryland with her Jewish husband, Michael. Hines-Starr was inspired to write “Why Every Black Woman Should Marry A Jewish Man” after finding true love with her Jewish husband.

Nazaree received her undergraduate degree from Ohio State University and her Doctorate in Pharmacy from Howard University’s College of Pharmacy. Nazaree Hines-Starr, 41, and her Jewish husband, Michael Starr, 39, are raising their son Hayden “culturally Jewish,” according to the author.

 My Take:

As I mentioned, I haven’t read the book, but a savvy woman who is looking to learn about what others have done successfully what she would like to do might see passed the sweeping generalizations and give it a chance, only if you’re not “married” to being a Christian, like most black women in America are. Granted, being Jewish isn’t just about religion; it is also a culture, so if you can find a non-practicing Jew then you and your kids might have a chance at having secular Christmas and sneak them into church on Easter Sunday.

On a serious note, Jewish people have historically participated in the struggle for justice and civil rights for blacks. Many of the lawyers who fought the courts so that blacks could be recognized as human beings were Jewish. A few Jewish men even married black women in the 1960’s. Social justice is a passion for the Jewish people, because they have empathy based on their own struggles. It’s for that reason that I’m thinking that black women with Jewish man are not such an unlikely match.

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