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How to date, mate and relate. Mixing race, culture and creed.
“Stop having people tell you which group or race thinks you’re not beautiful. Who are they to determine that? And why do we allow that discussion to happen?”
Here’s the thing, I completely understand that not all black women will find non-black men attractive. Thus my suggestion to a black women to open herself up to dating non-black men will sometimes fall on deaf ears. Heck, I don’t like short men, and any suggestion that I get to date a cute guy who happens to be the same height as Danny DeVito will be ignored. But whether the issue is that you don’t think you’ll like the look of a pale-colored penis or that height-challenged males turn you off, the LEAST you can do for other women is to not shout that crap from the highest rooftop–in other words, could you stop f&*king up it for those who do like pale-colored men and the vertically challenged? I’m just saying…*insert Kanye West shrug here*
“Welcome to my quest for love! In last week’s introduction I explained how three books, Love in 90 Days by Diana Kirschner, PhD., If I’m So Wonderful Why Am I Still Single? by Susan Page and Find a Husband after 35 by Rachel Greenwald, M.B.A., inspired me to jumpstart my search for true love.”
I find it interesting that black women only comment on non black men ‘wanting sex.’ Most black women seem to have zero problems with sleeping with black men who only want sex. Do you really think that most black men view black women, in a non sexual way?
Like black women, Asian men have low intermarriage rates. But here’s one HUGE difference: They’re STILL getting married.
The BWE blogs talk a lot about vetting, so we know it means more than working a gig giving pets shots and enemas. But the question is, how do we vet? What questions should you be asking to get to the answers you want, and how do you do it without sounding like a crazy chick? Read on…
Follow this BB&W Crew member as she goes on an earnest and deliberate quest to find love. Get your popcorn ready!
**Attention all–I got this question today, and because of the sensitive nature of the post, I brought in a licensed therapist, Tina Tessina, PhD, to chime in. As always, feel free to pass along your sage advice. Let’s take good care of this girl.**
Just when some of you were ready to pack up your marbles and leave the whole online thing, or at least use your net time playing online games like Farmville and Cheeky Bingo, there just might be a hopeful new option for some of you.
“Wow! Did this white man just asked for my number in front of these brothers? Yes he did! Oh my god! Did I just give this man my number in front of these black men? Yes I did! I love it!”
Every so often one of the ladies here says they are not meeting non-black men who are interested in dating them. Now those ladies have a hint as to why that may be so: you work for the Department of Health and Human Services while many of the men you should be dating are working at Deloitte and Touche.
Rainbow men, that is, non-black guys of varying hues, tend to prefer a svelte physique. Now before you get all huffy about having to give up your daily donuts, deep-fried Twinkies and 500-calorie mochachocalattechai (and then try to be all, “no whip cream!” about it), just hear me out.
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