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07 Aug 14

#OnlineDating Success…She Made the First Move....

Online dating has it’s ups and downs, I’ll admit you often have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. However, with 52% of men using online dating sites to find women, you can’t really discount it. What is more, stats suggest that the average dating-to-marriage period for people who met online…

Thriving

06 Aug 14

Ready to Flee to Freedom? Tips to Get You on Your Way…...

How many people are unhappy with their lives but do virtually nothing to fix them? Unfortunately, far too many. There are deeply ingrained bad habits,...

afro, hairstyle, black women's hair, Spring, fashion, personal grooming, blonde, buzz cut, inspiration, dressing, advice, tracy renee jones, personal style, signature look,

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06 Aug 14

SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: From Hair to There...

I’m tangled, like the curls of my love’s hair, like a snake encharmed, I turn and ...

hair, natural hair, compliments, non black boyfriend, society, culture, shame, appreciation, flirting, dating, mixed couples, advice, QOTW, Perfectly Mixed, Abby Allen, mixed, biracial, documentary, essays, living, photography, hair, essay, beauty, true story, non fiction, America,

Question of the Week

05 Aug 14

QOTW: “How Do I Tell My Girlfriend I Love Her Natural ...

This note made me go “AWWWW!!!” Dear Ms. Karazin, I am writing to you as a young “white” boy of 18 years (though I only ackno...

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04 Aug 14

“Help! My Mother is a Mammy, and Resents My Desire for...

Hey Christelyn!First, I want to say thank you for showing me the light. Your site led me to discover BWE groups all over and has exposed me to the wor...

No Wedding, No Womb!

04 Aug 14

New Documentary Decrying 72% Out-of-Wedlock Rate…Love ...

Moguldum Studios just released a documentary lending a hard look at the astronomical 72% out-of-wedlock rate in the black community. And I’m LOV...

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04 Aug 14

Man Candy Monday: Big Bald Head and Those With Coiffed Beard...

I love to run my fingers through a man’s hair, however, sometimes that’s not necessary. Men with bald heads leave nothing to the imaginati...

Gender Conflict

03 Aug 14

Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black...

Someone on my You Tube channel sent this video to me, and upon looking at the title, I thought it was just another cuss-filled, vitriolic video about ...

Law

03 Aug 14

Latest News of NYPD Brutality PROVES You Can’t Be R...

I think I might have been a lone voice in the wilderness in my blog space when I reported and expressed my outrage over the tragic and unnecessary dea...

Married Swirling

01 Aug 14

OMG…Let These Folks Be! In Their Ninety’s, Inter...

This has got to be the sweetest thing in the whole world, and even more endearing that this couple–a white man and a black woman–live in t...

Eric Gardener, NYPD, New York Police Dept, Mayor DeBlasio, police brutality, black fathers, NYPD, violence, fatherless, marriage, family, children, urban america, social issues, community, news, social issues, justice, police brutality,

News

01 Aug 14

Eric Garner: He Was Murdered. Definitively....

It looks like Eric Garner, the victim of homocide via the Staten Island police, might get some justice. According to the New York Daily News, “T...

book, reading, entertainment, interracial relationship, fiction, Tiana Laveen, Smoke and Mirrors,

Author Spotlight

01 Aug 14

New Interracial Relationship Fiction: “Smoke and Mirro...

"SEX, BETRAYAL, SURVIVAL & REDEMPTION.....Smoke and Mirrors" is the latest release by literary Interracial and Multicultural Bestselling Author, Tiana...

work out, gear, health, yoga, accessories, style, fashion, inspiration, user picks, stress reduction, lifestyle, living,

Health and Fitness

01 Aug 14

Cool Tools To Help You Get Your Yoga On...

I know everyone has a preference, but I personally believe that yoga is the single most amazing, body changing, stress reducing, and weight loss pract...

KISS, rock band, throwback band, boy crushes, evil, music, albums, heavy metal, devil worship, black girls, teens,

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31 Jul 14

TBT: KISS the Devil, Shame Your Parents...

I’m nearly still scared to admit how much the sheer sight of these men turned me on. I’d never seen anything like it, and haven’t ye...

Dating & Marrying Ethnic Men

30 Jul 14

New Anti-Swirling Meme: “How Can You Oppose Racism And...

I’ve been seeing the following bit of stupid making its way around the web at an increased clip. The people who are desperate to guilt-trip blac...

Relationships

30 Jul 14

Writer Reads “Swirling,” and Is Overwhelmed with...

You won’t want to miss this. One of the most touching letters I’ve ever received. Ladies, don’t let anyone tell you that non-black m...

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30 Jul 14

SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: Looking back on it...

She Walks in Beauty She walks in beauty, like the night Of cloudless climes and starry skies; And all that’s best of dark and bright Meet in her...

Valparaiso, Chile, black girl's guide to travel, overseas, education, travel, living abroad, international travel, Chile, women traveling, adventure, expat,

Study Abroad

29 Jul 14

Guest Writer: A Black Girl’s Guide to Studying Abroad ...

Meet Tiana (left) and Angel (right)–two brown girls who met while studying abroad in Chile! ☺ Valparaíso, Chile, with its art-splashed bui...

black girls, violence towards black women, abuse, society, culture, rape culture, racism, media, stereotypes, technology, awareness,

Black Women's Empowerment

29 Jul 14

Where Did 64,000 Black Women and Girls Go?...

A person doesn’t just disappear into thin air but you would think they do when you learn that 64,000 Black women and girls are currently missing...

advice, Youtube, black men, culture, destructive behaviors, children, abandonment, warning, video, dating, single motherhood, pregnancy, fatherless children, casual sex, regrets, young women,

No Wedding, No Womb!

28 Jul 14

#NWNW: Don’t Look for the New Man to Clean Up the Mess...

It’s very rare that I get questions that stir my emotions, frustrate me, and make me deeply sad. I just received such a letter from a very young...

MCM, Man Candy Monday, ethnic men, flirting, dating, marriage, entertainment, culture, race, Indian men, East Asian men, brown, tan, turban,

Pop Culture

28 Jul 14

Man Candy Monday: Lustful Arabian Knights of Hot Indian Men...

Though I am very much receptive to all types of candy, I do favor a certain flavor when it comes to my favorite treats. Build me a man with dark eyes,...

recipes, cooking, gardening, ideas, entertaining, meals, healthy, food, nutrition, DIY, urban gardening, harvest, veggies, fruits, organic,

BB&W Recipe Exchange

27 Jul 14

Quick! Help Me Create Some Meals with the Massive Harvest!...

Whew. Got back from the Tenth Annual BlogHer conference in San Jose feeling a bit nervous. I mean, I called everyday to say hello to the hubby and kid...

sex, intimacy, dating, mating, relationships, online dating, healthy communication, red flags, rules of dating, advice,

Black Women's Improvement Project (BWIP)

27 Jul 14

Intimacy Is Not Built Through Sex. Surprised?...

A couple of months ago, I downloaded Tinder after hearing good things about it. And in one month’s time, I had four dates with three guys, pr...

QOTW, advice, white friends, black friends, bias, race, culture, education, teaching moments,

Question of the Week

27 Jul 14

QOTW: “Help! My White Friends Ask My Black Girlfriend ...

How many us have felt like you’ve had to be the ambassador of all black people when you’re around people of other races? On guy wrote me,...

ethnic men, families, influence, blended families, mixed marriage, biracial marriage, shame, family pressure, advice, warning, rejection,

Dating & Marrying Ethnic Men

24 Jul 14

Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Famil...

I recently read an article on Your Tango called, “My Boyfriends Was Ashamed of Me Because I’m Black.” I’ll admit, the first th...

Food

24 Jul 14

99 Reasons Wheat and Sugar are Your Problem....

One night last week when I had the munchies I decided to try eating a bowl of cereal that I thought was gluten free (silly me; buckwheat is still whea...